She left me to pursue the gothic life style. And when I ask her why she wanted it out she says she does not know. Gur Also she said she wanted to be friends but she always yells at me. Its been 5 years and I have no clue why she left me. She claims she does not feel how she did. And maybe if her feelings come back towards how she felt when she fell in love with me she says she will come back. but I ask this I want to show her and make her fall in love but when I do she pushes me away and say leave me alone! I am so lost what can I do I have done everything in my power to show her I changed to be a better person I show her affection and nice sweet things that took me forever to do and all she does is say thank you but not like when we were going out.She yells at me andI she wont tell me why. I am so depressed if I only knew why she left it would make the pain go away. But she wont give me an answer just more unanswered questions. I am about to explode.
2007-01-04 15:42:11 · 12 answers · asked by ltcharles1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something's need no explanation because they are so very self explanatory!!! Find peace within in yourself and deal with the fact that she left you first of all because at this point you still love her so much until finding the answer to that question has become a part of your daily brian process but once you deal with the fact that she is gone and it is really over then it won't be so important for you to know why she did this to you. Then and only then will you get the answer you need!!!! See when you could care less people are more likely to explain something because they don't have to fear that you will hurt from hearing what it is they have to say!!!
2007-01-04 15:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if she is seeing anyone else ? That would be one reason she would push you away and not answer the question of why. Sounds to me like she wants to have the fun of a single life and later on when she is bored with it... come home to you whom she's had waiting on the back burner this entire time. There is no reason why she needed to leave you to pursue a goth life style. In my opinion, forget her sweetie and find a woman that will love you for you and not play games. You deserve better than this. Good Luck !!
2007-01-04 23:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever gotten a straight answer out of a woman? Have you ever gotten many answers from one that make sense? Why would you think you will now?
Dude, she left because she wanted to do so. You may never be told the real reasons. She is typical and cares for and about her and what she wants. She wont admit to that, but that is the answer.
Dispatch the idea of making things right, for that takes two and she aint having any of it. I feel badly for you, yet that is the facts. Dont waste time or energy. Accept reality and you will start to heal.
2007-01-04 23:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to tell you to give up on your wife. You were married for a reason and NEVER give up.
I would honestly give her space and she will come around. I would suggest in the meantime going to counseling. It will help you better communicate and understand her and yourself.
You have to be willing to change and know why and how will you make these changes so that they become apart of your life and your marriage? Never give up on yourself. Let God in your life. He will guide you through. Please email or IM if you would like to talk or vent. I'm going through a separation right now, not by my choice, so I may have similiar thoughts. Take care of yourself!
2007-01-04 23:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
5 years thats very sad! My wife left me and it was for another man. You will always have a place in your heart for her and a scare from it. But you really do have to move on. There is a million soul mates for every one of us. There is a women just waiting for you to love her and her to love you. Call her and tell her goodbye that you will always care for her but you need to move on. It worked for me.
2007-01-04 23:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and forget about her. Stay positive and better yourself. Time will heal the pain. Good Luck!
2007-01-04 23:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wont tell you because she knows if she tells you..that you will leave her alone...its sounds like she does not want you to leave....I think it might be time to move on...sounds like she wants to be alone but needs you by her side just incase something does not work and she has you waiting for her_
2007-01-04 23:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
(((hugs))) You are worth more than this...she isn't treating you as a man deserves to be treated. Please let her go and move forward pursuing interests and hobbies that make you happy. Here are a few web pages from Dr. Phil on
"Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18
"Life After Divorce"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
2007-01-04 23:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are the perfect candidate for personal counseling.
You're stuck and to get unstuck you need some professional help.
Please stop wasting your life...you're not going to get her back.
2007-01-04 23:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not over until the fat lady sings.
2007-01-05 00:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋