I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL MY B/F THAT I NEED A BREAK???
WE HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR ONE YEAR AND FIVE MONTHS ...
2007-01-04 15:14:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
IN AUGUST... AFTER I CAME BACK FROM A TRIP THAT I TOOK HE ASKED ME IF I NEEDED ONE AND WE DECIDED NOT TO...
BUT KNOW I FEEL LIKE I DO...
I LOVE HIM SOOO MUCH HES MY FIRST "REAL" B/F...
BUT I DONT WANT TO BREAK UP LIKE END EVERYTHING I JUST NEED A BREAK....
2007-01-04 15:25:57 · update #1
wow...thats always hard to do!!! but at times it needs to be done, and im sure he'd rather have u break up with him than cheat on him because u arent happy anymore. just be honest, and make it like ripping off a bandaid-fast and simple. Just say what u need to say and be done with it..the longer u stay the more time he has to potentially change your mind by making u feel guilty(trust me i know)I wish u strength and the will do accomplish this feat-it will be better for both of u!! he will find someone who wants to be with him as much as he wants to be with them, as will u!!!
2007-01-04 15:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by lil blue eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nada Surf - Popular
Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends
2007-01-04 23:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine if U told him "I NEED A BREAK FOR A WHILE" - what would be his reaction. wud he be understanding or take it the wrong way? u need to tell him either way and if he is understanding, great. and if he's not, then he is not the one for you. especially if he can't try to find empathy and understanding for whatever turn or curve ur relationship may take. It might be hard, but you need to do it either way. You can't let it bubble up inside you or hide it or try to get rid of it. It wont go away and if you ignore it or let it fuel up inside you, it will most likely affect your relationship in the long run.
2007-01-04 23:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sayy
"heyy well i know that we like each other and I have had fun times with you...and some memories that will last a long time...but I just dont feel a spark in our relationship anymore there isno more tension...this relationship for me is leading towards being friends and not bf/gf....sorry but I just want to be friends..."
2007-01-04 23:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be blunt. "feelings are changing. possibly fading. i dont want to be tied down anymore. if its meant to be, somehow i will see that and we will make it together, but i just need some time to myself."
2007-01-04 23:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him by opening your mouth and latting the words float from your mouth
2007-01-04 23:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well tell him that you think that " we should see other people " and that you can still be good friends.
2007-01-04 23:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by The Con 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋