girl problem..just a question....?

Question

I know its weird for me ask people about this ok i'm married and have two kids and pregnant. Last year my husband friend(which is a girl) which I don't mind but after what i found out what she wrote on an e-mail to him. but anyways it became a big problem with me and my husband cuz i don't want him to talk to her at all but he still does behide my back and i don't wnat to lose him over this girl. so i guess i've been mad at her for like an 1year and maybe 3months. I guess what i'm asking is that what should i do should i just forget about it and just let them talk or i don't know cuz this is becomin a whole lot of stress on me plus 2 kids if ya'll have an ideas or anything i love to hear them thanks

ok everyone been asking what she wrote on this e-mail well for one thing i just had my lil girl and she said she would love to be the step mother of my kids. another thing me and her were friends before i found that out but know she is try to become my friend again i just really don't know if i could trust her again thanks for all the commets

Answer 1

do the same, you must have friends too, talk on messenger all day long with your friends, ignore your husband, he will become jealous, and he will "take" u back, maybe he will not talk to that girl...

Answer 2

I guess it would matter what type of messages they're sending to each other. I guess the best way to judge that is, would these messages be ok to let the kids see. If not, then I'd say it is a serious problem.

Otherwise, I'm married, and I still stay in contact with some high school girl friends. I also don't hide it from my wife either...

Answer 3

Sorry, but I think you're over reacting. No offense. You didn't state whether it's a personal email or not, but if it's not hen you're just giving them a reason to do stuff behind your back. You're acting like a jealous lover not allowing the other person to talk to the opposite sex. Don't get me wrong, you have a right to be jealous, but don't make this break up your marriage. Just be cool with it and you'll see that the times when your husband is sneaking around to be with her, you can be included. It's kinda hard, but try. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would advise you to talk to someone, like go get some counseling. Cause he is not hurting himself, and he is not hurting you. The only ones he is hurting is your kids.

I tell you what why don't you have your case on the Divorce Court Show. I think that might be a good idea. Let Judge Lynn Tolar talk to him. She can give some good advice.

Good Luck
I will be praying for you. And God Bless You and Your Husband and Your Kids. I will keep all of you in my prayers.

Answer 5

I say if your man can't get rid of some girl that's a friend he has something more than friendship with her, he might not be sleeping with her but their is something their some sort of attraction. This girl is also disrespectful and doesn't care if she brakes up a home so she is not Innocent at all you have to regulate this. If it was an old friend that he said hi to occasionally I'm sure that would be fine, but something is keeping this girl around and i would be suspicious. It also can play a factor if she is single then you gotta worry about her.

Answer 6

I think what your husband is doing is really rude. How would he feel is you were talking to another man. I think you are right to be upset. He should respect you and stop talking to her or at least include you in the friendship if it is innocent as he claims and the friendship is innocent. For example ask her over to eat dinner with the family or have a couples night. The least he can do is make you her friend as well. He really needs to get his priorities straight and not take you for granted.

Answer 7

Sylvia,

Only you have the answer to what is really going on in your marriage, Now please take your stand as a mature woman,
Loving wife and mother keep the enemy out of your camp, and this is how you do it . you cannot be insecure about who you are
also you must understand that every thing in life is based on a choice and that is a absolute fact , my question to you is how did you choose? remember you cannot go against another persons will or decision . Stress breeds fear and creates chaos and if you need help bringing order to that giant of discord in your life
seek help from a greater source.
Terra P.

Answer 8

What I find is that most guys have one major problem with woman... taking away their time and trying to change their habits. I am guilty of this at times, where I sometimes ask my boyfriend to stop doing certain things, small things he does by himself, without thinking. He's use to being closer to people more than most Americans are comfortable with because he's Brazilian. He thinks I am out of line sometimes... I do it more with other guys though and they shrug it off.

Answer 9

I understand how you feel, after my neck operation a friend came over with food and beer and hot dam I just thought she was being nice since I frequently loaned her money, food, paper goods, jewelry, foot ware, and oh yes money. Well I had to take my meds and fell asleep, I woke in the middle of the night to a dark empty living room dogs were gone, I just figured hubby and dogs were out back with a fire so headed to bed, I opened the door to find my dogs at the door, and hubby in bed and my dear friend but naked getting ready to do the oral thing or something, I trained on the light and asked what the hell was going on, then went outside to think, he told me that he went to bed and she went home, he thought that I was in the room and was about to ask if I needed help to get to bed when the light turned on, Well I asked if he wanted her he said no and he was innocent. She was too drunk to drive so I told her to sleep on the couch and be gone before I wake up and I went for a walk, came home and went to bed woke up went to the bathroom she was still there so I started bitching she was gone before I came back

She would call and call so I changed my number, he stopped checking his cell messages and let me screen them then she would show up at the house ever so often I would send her packing. One day we were in the truck and she came running out to the street to flag him down, we live down the street we own she rents at low income, then she saw me and it was on! I let hubby know that if he were to ever give a head nod, a smile, a wave or any friendly gesture it would be over between us and the only time I want to see her is with a loaded gun pointed between her eyes, a year later oldest daughter was at a friends next door to the bi and told her where we live, she said that there was a crazy man with a truck that flips off her neighbor every time he sees her, so I know that he has taken my warning to hart. I know he was innocent because of all the wash cloths in the bathroom, he said he felt so dirty that she saw him in bed naked and he almost felt like it was attempted rape, which it was because she said that she knew if she got him drunk and because of my brOKen neck (I had confided how long it had been to her) that she had a shot at him even if for one night!

I gave and loaned everything to her it was not enough she wanted my life and my man!

Keep her away from you and your family she is just bad news, and tell him and mean it what you intend to do if he continues to speak to her. I love my man but I don't share! Not even a conversation with a woman that I know is looking for much more. Before anyone says he slept with her he did not ok I know this for a fact, besides they did not even have time her drink was in the living room with fresh ice, I checked

Answer 10

If she wrote an email and confessed her undying love to your husband I wouldn't let them talk either. And the fact that your husband still is talking to her just shows he is an @$$hole who has no consideration for your feelings.

And honestly it sounds pretty questionable that it's so important for him to talk to her that he is risking your health and going behind your back.

It's some bullsh*t and you need to put your foot down.