I have a very close friend who I have known for many years. I am familiar with his family and they are of me. His brother-in-law just passed away. It was a sudden death. I would like some proper words of sympathy to express to my friends' sister. Again, we know of each other and care for one another through my friend, who is the brother. I sure hope this makes sense. Basically, what words of caring to share to an acquaintance who also holds a special place in ones heart because of a mutual person. ???
2007-01-04 15:04:38 · 7 answers · asked by T. Y. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Being the old fashioned type I use...." I'm sorry to hear about your trouble." You might add that her brother ( your friend ) said something about her husband that was nice like..." ( Brother ) always said what a great guy so-an-so was ." I hope I helped and I'm sorry for their loss.
2007-01-04 15:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best you can say is im here for you if you need me.I lost my wife in a car accident and truly even though people meant it when they said, IM sorry for your loss , after so many times hearing it I felt like telling everyone to SFTU.
So just let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. Thats what I used more and ear to talk about my wife. It helped me get thru a lot of the grief and the anger I felt. I am still working on some of the feelings since this happened 3 months ago but I can tell you having somoene listen to me helped.
2007-01-04 15:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The words you use aren't as important as what you hold in your heart. But if words are tripping you up, keep it simple such as:
"I'm so sorry that {person's name} died."
"I'm sorry for your loss."
You can also ask them how they or their family is coping with the loss. Give them time to talk about what ever they want to talk about. They may not be ready to talk just yet, but perhaps later they may want to.
And a hug also says a lot. You sound like you care about this person - don't be afraid to express that, and you don't have to explain why you care.
2007-01-04 15:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by freed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying something like "I'm so sorry for your loss. I know I may only be friends with your brother, but your whole family means a lot to me. If there's ever anything I can do please let me know." That way she knows you're concerned and you care. And you've given her the opportunity to talk if she wants or she could just leave it at that.
2007-01-04 15:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry yet I vote for the cardboard with short word too. outdoors of the grammatical blunders the letter is merely too emotional, at a time while the extra youthful female would not want to any extent further emotional bags. i understand your pal is feeling undesirable for her yet i think of he merely needs to offer his condolences and that's all. All he needs to assert is that he's sorry to take heed to pertaining to to the passing of her dad, he will shop her and her family individuals in his prayers and that he's there for her if she needs something.
2016-10-06 11:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple, start with "I'm sorry" then share a story about him if you ever did anything with the brother in law, or say, "I know you were very close" if you don't have a personal story.
2007-01-04 15:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer: "Sorry for your lose" said with the most sincere tone. Nothing you say will ease the pain, but showing you care through tone will be picked up and mean much more than the words themselves.
2007-01-04 15:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋