Sick of my Appearance!?

Question

I am 5'9", have gray eyes, light brown hair, and am so sick of myself. I usually feel ok when I'm by myself, but then when I'm out around others I immediately feel ugly and inferior. I am getting ready to return to school, so I want to really reinvent myself! One problem I have is my hair. It doesn't matter if I brush it or pull it back into the smoothest ponytail possible, twenty minutes later it will look messy or lopsided. If I leave my hair down, it's too flat. For my emotional and mental health, I need to reinvent my look! Can someone please give me some ideas or tips? I just had my hair dyed at a salon (it's really more blonde than brown now), which I think was a mistake. Please, I don't want to spend another semester feeling like crap!!!

Answer 1

well oy the descriptions you are not ugly !!

i will love to be 5'9 ( i am only 5'5)

well you should go to the mall with a friend and go to some different stores then where u usually go and look around look for new styles of clothe and maybe start to do some new stuff with friends go out and have fun try all kindz of new stuff!!!

bout your hair well have fun with it maybe try the cut to the side or maybe wash it and like 15 minutes later apply some jell ad mess it up a lil like kinda curly and blow dry it to style!!

Answer 2

I guess this is a thing that women go through. I guess I am one of the few who doesn't go through feeling sick with my looks/image, etc.

Don't mean to be rude, that's not my intent...I just don't get it...why women are so incredibly insecure with themselves. It hurts me to know this and learn this about women. It really is painful.

I can suggest some stuff, but you're never going to be satisfied with what goes on the outside until you "reinvent" the inside.

The way to "reinvent" the inside is to help those who have less than you do. People who are in more desperate situations often don't have these things cross their minds on a day to day basis.

However, here goes....

You're 5'9....big plus, already. I need details about your profile.
If you have long hair, put it up in a chignon, a pony tail, be different and wear it in two braids on the sides (no lie--i have long hair and do this too), put it in a bun in the back and wear a sexy black pant suit with peep toe stillettos--I do this.

Curl your hair....flat ironing is "out", if you will. That fad wasn't the greatest in the first place, it made all the women look stressed, not becoming on them at all.

wear it au naturale and touseled.....

don't color it so many times, it will ruin it. I am 36 and have tons of greay hair and I will never color it, I love it, I love my features and am very comfortable in my skin. I don't worry about what other ppl think of me, I feel it's a huge waste of my time.....and I am not a jealous person. Instead, I have a competitive edge.

Anyway, I didn't mean to go off on a bunny trail, I just think that you can start with those suggestions and see what others have to suggest as well.

Good luck...

Answer 3

i know just how you feel :-( I used to feel really ugly especially when i was around prettier girls but what I did was I got a really nice haircut (layered with sweeping bangs) and it looks pretty now matter what color. You should consider buying a good straightner and using a good frizz serum becuase i do that with my hair which is naturally frizzy. I also got a new wardrobe and realized how I was hiding myself under baggy clothes so I got some cute outfits at wet seal, hollister, etc. You could also get hightlights while at the salon. I got my eyebrows waxed because it wasnt like i had a unibrow but my eyebrows looked a lot better after and I kept on regaining confidence after each of these steps and now I still feel self conscious if Im having a bad hair day or something but i definitely am not as depressed as i used to be. Good luck :-)

Answer 4

I kind of doubt there's anything seriously wrong with your appearance, since you haven't mentioned anything, which makes me think the problem is in your head. Try not to compare yourself to others. It would be easy if you got a hobby so engrossing you didn't have time for insecure thoughts, maybe.
If you're so convinced your face and hair are unsalvageable (not likely) fall back on a killer wardrobe. Hold out for clothes that suit you, that make you feel at your best, not uncomfortable or awkward.
Also, talk to your stylist about other low-maintenance ideas for your hair that would complement your face.
You can also make an appointment at Nordstrom or a similar department store to get made-up. A makeup stylist would choose products that would look good on you, show you how to apply them, and try to sell you expensive facial creams. If you can dodge the superfluous salesmanship, you can get some valuable advice and a coordinated makeup palette.
Make sure anyone you ask for advice has some basic idea of what you're like and what your comfort zone is. It's hard to successfully wear someone else's skin.

Answer 5

For the hair - try getting some hair polish to put over it, it will hold back on the frizz. . .but if you feel ugly and inferior, its a self confidence issue and you will always find something to pick on yourself about. You see yourself much different than the rest of the world does.

As a quick "pick me up" sometimes I go buy a new outfit, or a new shirt that I know looks nice. You can try going to the mall (macys or something) and let them do a makeup makeover on you - buy some new makeup. If you're feeling frumpy, go get new shoes - your feet never look fat :-)

These might help you for the time being,but maybe you just need to find something to do thats going to make you feel better about yourself, or maybe you are surrounding yourself around people that have different values. Try volunteering somewhere or picking up a new hobby. Meeting more people like you might make you realize things aren't as bad as you thought. . .

Happy New Year!

Answer 6

I had the same problem with my hair. It used to be waist-length and it wouldn't do anything. I got it cut just above my shoulders and a few layers put in, and now it pretty much looks good every day. Try that. Also, go to a department store or makeup store and try to get a free makeup makeover. Another place to try is The Body Shop. They should sit down with you to give you a free skin and makeup consultation. They will help you pick out colors and teach you how to put it on. All for free. Try it out

Answer 7

Confidence is more sexy than a woman's hair. If you don't have confidence, fake it but don't act cocky. If you must change your look go for what you like not what you think others will like; that will only make you feel awkward.
Since you're in school if you want to get a guy's attention ignore him. Wait until the end of the semester to flirt.

Answer 8

Your problem isn't how you look. Your problem is you. You are bored with your look and You are having a self esteem issue. We all have to work with what we have been given. If it bothers you that much, then you should get a professional make over. It will cost you, but the results are so worth it.

Answer 9

you're unique, attractive, with a magnificent expression. you have amazing soulful eyes, dazzling darkish hair it extremely is styled properly. i like the type you gown. i do no longer understand your age - i'm no longer so stable at that so i won't wager. Nor do i understand your race -according to probability you're a mixed race? (properly we are all appropriate into one race besides, from Adam and Eve) Very lovable. thank you. Have a great weekend.

Answer 10

If it's your hair that bugs you most, cut it. Go to a hair salon you trust and tell them that you want them to lop it off and give you a short cut that's flattering. Then you won't have to worry about ponytails, flatness etc.