I have a hard time talking to my freinds and they get really bored and leave probably because I don't know what to say and I stay quiet for a while. Then they are quiet to me. I am not a hyper person but I wish I can make a better conversation and have the right questions to ask, how to not stay slient, bring enthusiasm, be positive, entertain the person, what to talk about, etc... Usually they talk to me and then I am boring and then they think am always boring. Because I am usually hyper, I don't act hyper, because the first time I meet someone knew I cannot be hyper (like I usually am), but I am shy. Sorry for the run on sentences... (*-*) ahhhhh! please help me... :)
2007-01-04 14:33:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Ask people questions. Nobody is more interesting than someone interested in you.
2007-01-04 14:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What has helped many people just like you is taking a course(this is for real and has a high success rate) in public speaking for in order to accomplish this one has to overcome shyness and also have interesting to the people you spend time with things to say. In order to be knowledgeable about whats happening around you ,what movies are playing and are popular as well as new music releases and so much more -Read the Daily Newspaper for it is full of interesting info from World News to the latest Movie Reviews.Also the Home page like Yahoo or MSN has info click on the them and read the info. Then when Your friends come over,remember they are your friends who will acccpt,have accepted you and why they come to see you. Not coming to judge you and then listen to what they start to talk about and join in.The important thing is that you be interested in them which usually means you will talk to them-see how they are doing,whats happening in their lives,their jobs(if they work) and so on. Everyone usually likes music -talk about some of the groups,latest CD release and the same with movies. Or talk about whats happenijng at school or your job. The public speaking course you'll find in the Yellow pages and well worth checking into for it will teach you conversation openers and how to keep it going but first it teaches self-confidence(one reason for being shy is not having enough belief that whatever you say will be listened to and not ridiculed)teaches you also how to feel at ease with yourself and in the company of others.Try it for you have so much to gain and nothing to lose by checking into it.
2007-01-04 22:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i not really good at this, but i think you should at least try to think of a conversatiton like how was your christmas or new years. Or have a sleep over and get to know what they like to talk about so you have idea over things or just go find new friends that don't think your conversations is boring. i could even be your friend on the computer,you don't seem so boring heres my email address, arimayswilliams@yahoo.com and my name is ariel
2007-01-04 22:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ari M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me to stay focused and interested, I ask people to tell me stories of when they were kids. I love to hear people talk about their funny childhood adventures or the sad moments. I also think its great when people just ask me to remember a funny tale from my past or to make up a story.
2007-01-04 22:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by yesicuriel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bring up a subject that interests you, I bet you don't run into this problem.
You don't have to have something to contribute on every subject, its okay to be silent or less than excited about some topics.
2007-01-04 22:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a quiet person.Today, people think you have to be hyper.You don't have to be obnoxios.Find some friends who don't mind you being quiet.
Romans (10)
2007-01-05 00:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about...anything lol, but I think maybe you need to stop worrying about what others think of you. Sounds cheesy, but don't worry about reputations. If they ignore you and think that they're better than you, maybe they aren't real, legit friends after all... WOW, I sound like Dr. Phil. bleh...
2007-01-04 23:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Space Cadet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok just be yourself .Get out of that thought that you are boring and just amaze yourself. you never met these people before so act a fool.
2007-01-04 22:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by bena884 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? you remind me of me when I was your age...Now, that I am older (and wiser)...I think why do I have to entertain anyone?
stop please stop trying to entertain people with all this hooplaa
just be yourself...if they dont like you then...forget them
nothing wrong with just being you
2007-01-04 22:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be quiet and get... use your imagination. You will have plenty of friends then.
2007-01-04 22:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mark Highmind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋