I have loads of friends, but still i am alone...?

Question

I have many frenz, but when i really need one, nobody is there. i have always been there for each n everyone whenever they needed me. I have always listened to them, helped them in every possible way, at times even left my most important work for them, but when i need a shoulder to cry on, i dont find ne, the answer is always "m busy, talk to u later" n later never comes. Nobody trust me, not even my parents. They all take me for granted. Everybody needs me for their need. No body understands me. There's nobody with whom i can share my feelings. Its really depressing at times. Can ne body help me? What shld i do?

Answer 1

Hi Chiri, this must be very hurtful for you. Sorry you are going thru this. Forgive me if I am wrong, but I have a feeling that you have experienced alot of rejection in your life, especially from those close to you, starting with parents or guardians. You have been made to feel like you are not important. You sound like you have come along way, but I also think that you are still battleing with a low self-esteem issue. You have never had anyone who has made you feel accepted "unconditionally". You have always had to work for acceptance. Am I right? You are always wanting your friends to do or say things that would affirm you. People pick up on this and it makes them feel uncomfortable and they will push away when you try to draw near cause they dont know how to handle it. You do this because inside of yourself, you really dont feel worthy or good enough to deserve others love. You will need a good counselor to help you with this. I recommend a christian counselor cause they will help you realize that God accepts you unconditionally. Once you realize that you are special to him, you dont feel a need to be accepted by others so much. Also, you can talk to your closest friends and ask them this question. "Is there something about me that makes people push away from me when I need help". There actually may be something you are doing. Get people to tell you and then you can work on it. Im proud of you for even asking this question. Sorry, but space doesnt allow me to give more info. E-mail me if you like. :)

Answer 2

I know what you are feeling... but let me point out first and formost... if nobody trusted you, you wouldn't here everyone elses problems... No about what you can do. I don't know if there really is somethign you can do.. if there is i still haven't figured it out yet.I am the one all my friends go to when I need help. BUt when I need help and i text a friend they are at a party and to busy to leave for a few minutes or call me or aren't home or they will tell other people what you say. I guess they only thing you can do is keep trying to find someone you can tell things too that listen. I know it is hard. And it they probably won't be there everytime you need them .But haveing someone you can trust always makes me feel better... even though they aren't always there when I need them.

Answer 3

LIke the first answer said. God is really the only person you can depend on in life. He is in controll. The only two people, people should be depending on is themselves and God.

You are figuring this out the hard way (dont worry im pretty much in the same boat u are in).

Try to figure out a way to talk to your friends about it. Dont sound all whiny abou it though. That may not end well.

Good Luck!

(please answer my question)

Answer 4

I feel bad for you honey..If you dont have anyone to talk to in your time of need start being distant and stop helping so much just remember god is always there for u even though at times it seems hes not pray honey get close with god he will lead you to someone that has time for you always contact me on line at [e-mail] if you need to talk to someone I am a26 year old young lady I have 2 kids I am not some nutt bucket I just hate to hear that u dont have any one to turn to I dont know you but I never mind listening and giving my honest opinion everyone needs someone to talk to sometime..I hope you will contact me whenever u need someone to talk to.. please feel free.

Answer 5

its time to find some new friends because these people are selfish and are using you for their benefit, making a friendship work thats the effort of both people and not just one, next time one of them needs you for something tell them that they never have time for you that you dont have time for them and when they are ready to be a true friend and not a user to give you a call but that you might not be around for it...

Answer 6

Well talking about it is the first step*~ Try and find the friend you feel is your 'best' friend...and talk to her about how you're feeling. Tell her you need her to make some time to talk with you. It's Important.~
Good Luck*~

Answer 7

Its easy to see that they are really not your true friends. I have this problem to. I feel the need to always make others happy when I'm not happy myself. Thats when I realized that I should not break my back for anyone. You gotta look out for yourself.

Answer 8

Those are not called friends, those are called aquantences. They are the people you hang with, drink with, and party with. True friends would sacrifice themselves for you. I suggest you stop making aquantences and make more friends.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

my dear , i have found in life that there is only one person that you can talk to anytime day or night and will always listen and that is God, for he will always be there for you