Thank you all for your responses. This is my first time utilizing this thing and I didn't expect for people to respond back so quickly. Anyway, even though a part of me wants to divorce my husband, another part of me wants to stay. The reason is because I have been fighting for my heart for four years and it's becoming so tiring out here. My husband says that I disrespected him, which I did, with my mouth. And although I'm not trying to justify my actions, I will just say that not everyone responds well to hurt and fear and I'm one of them. I guess what I'm really needing is someone to talk to because this is my second marriage, I'm pregnant with my first child, and now my husband says that I hurt him too. I'm so confused, bewildred, ultimately stressed out. I have cried enough and prayed enough. For those that said that they would pray, thank you. I need it.
2007-01-04 14:04:57 · 8 answers · asked by PEACHFACE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What God brings you to, He will bring you through. Your marriage is not a mistake. Everything will work out in the end. Learn the art of loving your husband. There are good sources to learn from. Check out the site: www.growthtrac.com.
2007-01-04 14:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your first question l now have a better understanding of where you are coming from. Of course you are confused about your feelings, your husband cheated on you, it's your second marriage and you are also pregnant. That is a hell of a lot to go through especially when you are feeling so alone. I know first hand how it feels as my husband also cheated, but we have been married 30 yrs, certainly not a short time. He said you disrespected him, what a joke. What does he think he did to you ? I like you, do not respond well to being hurt so badly by the man who is supposed to love me. I was like a crazy woman when l found out and probably said a lot of bad things too but the way l see it, they deserved to be treated badly. It was certainly no walk in the park for us either. I guess l'm a bit luckier though as my husband is doing his best to right his wrong doing and understands exactly why l felt the way l did. We did separate briefly but that was over 12 mths ago now and we are working on our problems together. If your husband truly loved you he would understand you also and try to fix what he has broken.You have nothing to feel guilty about as you did not cheat he did. Best of luck to you. I hope it all works out in your favour.
2007-01-04 22:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Cheating Spouse.
I see marriages on tv on the Divorce Court Show. Married couples and parents are going to have their disputes. You didn't tell how long you two have been dating. Cause you need to know all about his personnal life, and he needs to know all about your personnal life too.
I think about your first baby, does your husband want anything to do with his baby? Cause if you both divorce. He has the same right to see his baby just as much as you do. Cause it is his baby too. So you cannot keep him from seeing his baby.
Your husband says that you are hurting him, maybe you are other than in words. Do you ever tell him that he is hurting you?
You know that you are right, you both need to see someone.
You need to have a marriage counselor, and you both need to talk to him/her.
I am not married, but I have a girlfriend and I have had her since September of 2006. She has a baby girl. And we are planning to get married in September of 2008.
But I wish you two the best luck
So good luck on staying married, and I will be praying for you both.
And God Bless
2007-01-04 23:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by AARON BLACK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Heart really goes out to you in so many ways. I can empathise with you. This is my second marriage too. I am firstly so crippled by the thought that she would leave me. She earns twice what I do, moves in a totally different proffesional circle to mine. I am so insecure at times when shes on trips away this has left me so emotionally crippled. I come sites like these for some answers
2007-01-05 01:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by quinton p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You're pregnant and don't want to do it alone. That's probably part of why you don't want to leave him, as well. And I'm sure that you will feel you've wasted your time and effort if it ends in divorce. Well, quit thinking like that. All he's doing is turning the tables and blaming you to justify his actions. You can talk to me if you want. e-mail me through here. I'll be here to talk to you. Just don't be blaming yourself for everything.
2007-01-04 22:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some counseling would help.... seriously.... then after that.. you need to take a mini-vacation... get a way for a few days.. unwind, time to think and appreciate what is good in your relationship... you have a child on the way...
2007-01-04 22:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by goodolelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, I'll be praying for you. BTW check out that website one of the answers they posted. God bless!
2007-01-04 22:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to grow an learn are by the mistakes we make in life. good luck....
2007-01-04 22:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋