Was i a home wrecker????

Question

I met my husband through work while he was still married.We were old collegues and on friendly terms.Nothing ever happened between us while he was still married other than a few suggestive glances and some flirting that he tried to instigated but i backed off.His ex. wife thinks other wise and has insulted me calling me a whore she actually came to my job to tell me off and insults me in front of their children. I did not start seeing him till 6 months after his divorce and married him a year later.So i do not understand her point of view?

At this point she has actually begun to call me racial slurs like sp*c or kr*acker because i am white but half costirican she happens to be African american.My husband has spoken to her but now she will just insult me when he is not around!

Answer 1

Neither do I!!! She's just the scorned b@&ch ex wife. Get a restraining order on that wack job!

Answer 2

Well, if the information you have provided is accurate, then no you were not a home wrecker. The information that you have provided also suggests that your current husband had no problem trying to initiate a relationship w/you while he was still married. This means he may have participated in extra marital affairs before you came into the picture.
So from the ex-wife's point of view, she had valid suspicions and ur the only face she has to attach to the affair, soooo you're getting the backlash of all of the pain and anger he has caused her, and will probably cause you in the future. Good luck w/that!

Answer 3

If GOD became without mercy then we would all be up the creek without paddle. There are reactions to each action and each word we talk here in this existence. i'm 40-one years previous and that i became a house wrecker whilst i became 19 years previous. 22 years in the past and it nevertheless haunts me. I broken the lives of a minimum of 5 human beings if not many greater to comprise a million infant. All because of the fact i became egocentric, boastful and a intercourse freak. I even have been saved for the final ten years and that i'm a sparkling man or woman. i'm luckily married and have astonishing toddlers for over a decade now. i'll besides the shown fact that for the time of no way forget approximately the outcomes of my strikes. i won't be able to restoration them yet i will learn from them. we are forever forgiven under the blood of Christ. this implies that my punishment has already been taken with the aid of Jesus. It would not propose that it became okay to do what I did. desire that facilitates.

Answer 4

No, you aren't a homewrecker. IF anything you are a cleanup lady. You may have never heard of this term, however it is an oldie but goodie. Its by Betty Wright. You can pick it up at just about any WalMart or Sam Goody. As far as the ex-wife goes, she has issues. I can only assume that she is black. Like most black women, they enjoy demeaning, demolizing and manipulating their husbands. And they actually believe that they own them. What you are experiencing is someone that refuses to let go. She feels that if she runs you off, then she can have "her husband" back. (she still refers to him this way) She doesnt care how long you waited, because it is still her huband to her. It gets worse, but I think that you can understand this much, and if you do, you will be fine. I can only suggest that you may have to use a clandestine method, (such as recording her saying these things) and revealing this attack to your husband. Besides suing her for public defamation, I dont think there is much else.

Answer 5

You're not a home wrecker. Only the people in the original bond can break it up. It sounds like you're still crossing paths with her a lot, yes? You should only be running into each other when you're exchanging the children for visiting rights. Her coming to your place of employment is actual harassment. If she calls your household to just put you down, that would be considered harassment too. She wants to put her failures on you instead of taking responsibility in her part of the marriage failing. And to do so in front of the children is testament to her immaturity. If she's going out of her way to degrade you, I wouldn't hesitate to file harassment charges against her.

Answer 6

In this case, No, you were not a home wrecker. You did what people on this forum preach. "Wait until the divorce is final" You did that. You did nothing wrong. His Ex has the issues. And if she continues to behave as such seek legal or police advice/protection.

A real lady does not speak abusively in front of her children. She needs professional help or she could loose custody of her children for mental and verbal abuse.

Answer 7

If you never did anything with they guy, then NO, you are not a home wrecker. Maybe you opened up feelings in him that made him realize that he didn't want to be with his wife. He then took care of things at home which made him free to date other people and find a happier life. This does NOT mean that it was your fault! If you did not scheme and plan his departure from his marriage, or leaving his wife, then I don't see how you are at fault. If she harasses you though, I would definitely do something about it. She is focusing her anger on you instead of her husband.

Answer 8

I'ts sad that you have to go through that but you did wreck a marriage while having innocent children go through the emotional pain of a divorce..You are simply reaping what you sewed

You'll understand his ex wifes point of view once you experience the same thing in due time..God does not like things like that, Do not think you will live happily ever after..He has children with this woman so she will be in his and your life until he leaves you for some younger hotter whipper snapper..Of course that will be after you pop out 2 of his kids, gain 40 pounds and have disgusting strech marks everywhere

good luck

Answer 9

NO woman is a "homewrecker" unless she puts a gun to a guy's head and says, "Date me, or I'll shoot". It seems to me that any married man who has an affair doesn't usually have his arm twisted behind his back.
And even this doesn't apply to you. You did the right thing and acted honorably, yet you're still subject to this woman's abuse. She has no right to come to your workplace; I do hope you called security or the police.
It's up to your husband to tell her that she is NOT to talk trash about you in front of those children; they're his kids too. Otherwise, hold your head up and ignore her. She thinks she's getting under your skin, and you allow her to do it, she'll keep it up.

Answer 10

That's a tough one. If I were his ex wife i'd say YES. You wrecked her home!
But if he divorced her before starting anything with you and no intension to than maybe your not. But only you know!
But speaking as a married woman if you see a ring on his finger leave if the hell alone!