do you think relationships within your own race last longer than interracial relationships?

Question

i know what you're gonna say "well if you really love the person it shouldn't matter what race they are" but i feel it's a little more to it.
i guess being from different cultures you can learn something but sometimes those differences can break a relationship too. just for example a white and a black person hook up, they listen to different music, eat different foods and their backgrounds are just
completely different, not saying it's not possible because i see it all the time but can interracial relationships last for a long time without your race ever becoming an issue? i wish i could have explained myself better but i want you guys opinions and if you are in this situation, your input would even be better.

Answer 1

I feel if your attracted to someone from a different race and you "mesh" with that person, I think you have a better chance for that relationship to last. It's all about respect and communication. Keeping an open mind about each others cultures. Your "always" going to get haters who don't feel that interracial relationships should be.(so sad).. but it's your life..not theirs..do what feels right..if it makes you feel happy.

Answer 2

Love is important, and without it you cant survive in a relationship very long. Lust and infatuation are immature in nature and hold no timetested value. It does not matter the race or religion of the 2 parties, just the affection and trust they have between them.

Now, part of your question was "....can interracial relationships last for a long time without your race ever becoming an issue?" The answer to this is "No." It will come up, eventually, even if not by you two by someone else close to the family or in the family. So you are right that it does add one more hurdle, but in any relationship you have numerous hurdles, and once you jump it you are on to the next. The same would be if a Jew dated a Muslim, or a rich person and a poor person, or a Republican and a Liberal, and this happens all the time.

I think your question is based on alot of stereotype, but then again stereotype is based in some form on some type of fact, so I hope this explaination helps. Personally I don't give a damn what anyone on the outside thinks.

Answer 3

i know what you're getting at. I come from a family of mixing. My dad's peruvian, my mother's white american. Their marriage didn't last long mostly from him being deported. Then my sister dated a mexican man for 5 years and had 3 beautiful kids. but they're broken up. I vowed to only date within my race. But now I'm in love with an ethiopian. She's beautiful and I don't even see her color as I don't think she sees mine (white). I noticed in the south I don't see mixing of black and white too much. in the west coast it's more common. I hope that me and my abesha friend will become more and stay together long. I think it's about compromise. I mean not only do we have race issues in the south but also cultural issues. like when we're together and she's on the phone to her family or other ethio friends I try not to get bothered by her speaking amharic, but I really wish I knew her language. and then there's the issue of language again that I can't attend her church because it's all in amharic. I'd be the only white woman there not knowing anything they're saying. I'm trying though. I am trying to learn everything about ethio culture and amharic language. So far I know: talianu bet. which means italian house or italian restaurant and neger, which is thing. hey, it's a start. I think the more you compromise and understand each others culture, the longer you'll stay together.

Answer 4

It depends on your commitment. If you and your partner are willing to stand together against what people might think about you, and willing to work on the cultural differences you have, it can bring you closer than if you didn't have to get past these hurdles.

Sometimes people of the same race can have nothing in common, and sometimes people of different races have everything in common. Mixed-race people, for example, sometimes have one of their race's cultures, but more often have a mesh. Some black/white mixed people listen to pop and wear Abercrombie and Fitch, some prefer Fubu and hardcore rap.

It depends on your compatibility as people and how far you're willing to go to stay together, race is only one issue in a sea of them.

Answer 5

I am in a interracial relationship with a black girl and it kinda makes things interesting and we never get in fights about cultural issues or our differences. We like to poke fun and also learn at the same time. I wish this wasn't an issue for others but sometimes it is and I don't let it affect myself and I don't believe she does. Otherwise, we don't let that affect our daily lives. It will always be a learning process, but isn't that what life is about?

Answer 6

No matter what people say, I Do think relationships within our own race last longer than interracial ones. Yes, there are a few interracial relationships that work but im sure they have to try harder to make it work. Usually, one person of those couples has to be concessive to his partner. To be concessive is good for relationship but it's bad if the problems come from racial issues. And sooner or later, racial issues will come up. Why? Ok, when we are happy, that's absolutely fine if we enjoy different kinds of music, different food and cultures. We even may find it interesting. But when we argue we usually try to find something to blame on, this is how we "figure out the reasons of the argument". And in interracial relationship, the racial issue is the esiest reason to find, the first thing come up in ur mind. Later on, we accept that "racial issue" and it will deepen the trouble, widen the gap. Believe me, racial difference is most difficult compared to differences in social status, richness, age, academic degree etc.
In my situation, i adore beauties of caucasians and african decestors. But i cannot feel comfortable walking hand in hand with them. After long time living abroad, now i feel extremely happy in a relationship with my asian lover. He's not as tall, strong, gallant, handsome and intellectual as my white/black exes. But we can do everything together, i feel comfortable holding him in front of my friends, i feel ok to express my all, i dont feel bad to tell him stupid things or show him my silly habbits. I believe this is how love grows and lasts.
To sum up, Im not agaisnt interracial loves. But i believe its harder to keep it last. Goodluck to all of you!!!

Answer 7

I see your point, but I don't know the answer. I can't find any statistics that answer this question. I would think that people that come from any type of different backround (rich/poor for example) may have difficulties in their relationship just because they view things differently. I'm married to someone outside of my ethnicity, and I can tell you that our cultural beliefs do clash sometimes. I really guess it comes down to how hard a couple is willing to work on a relationship in order for it to work.

Answer 8

I have never dated out of my race because i choose not to. But what i have seen is that it all depends on the couple no matter what the race and how well they both get along and how they handle the realities of life.

Answer 9

Your question might not be popular, but it has some merit. My husband is from South America (Peru), and I'm whiter than white. lol The cultural differences sometimes do cause issues. They do eat differently, listen to different music, he likes soccer and I'm more of an American football girl, all petty stuff. But marriage is about compromise and making it work. After 10 years of marriage, we have learned to give and take.

Answer 10

I'm black and married to a white man, it is harder sometimes but if you work on it it will work. Race issues tend to come more from the outside than inside the relationship.