My sister lost her daughter to a sudden heart attack, how can I help her? She is having a hard time of it.?

Question

Her daughter died suddenly at the age of 40 of a massive heart attack. She had not been sick, was not at all overweight, had a great education, and a great job. My sister is so depressed and grieving much more than she should. Her daughter passed away around the first of October, 2006. My sister used to be so active and always on the go. Now she wants to stay at home all of the time. How can I help her?

Answer 1

Everyone grieves at his/her own pace, but this seems to be going on too long. I highly recommend that you put her in touch with a grief counselor. It might help if you offered to go with her. Also, remind her that you are always willing to listen; if she takes you up on the offer, really listen to what she has to say, even if she's already said it many times. Share your memories of your niece. If she's not caring for herself, treat her to a hair-styling and manicure. Invite her (and her family) to dinner, and make dishes that they can take home with them. Do whatever you're inspired to do to help her grieve, so she knows she's not alone. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.

Answer 2

My condolences, my sister just died also she had cancer but was given 6 to 8 months, and died suddenly just last week. I feel you need to talk to your sister and let her talk about her daughter. Be there for your sister "listen" to what she is saying. Slowly take her out of her home. Be there! LISTEN! and PRAY with her and for her. Grieving does have a less or more, to each his own.
Have your sister join a support group.

Answer 3

Let her talk. Encourage her to go to hospice. they have support groups, and it is open to anyone who lost someone, regardless of cancer, or other illness. Goodluck, and I am sorry for your loss too.

Answer 4

You are helping sweetie, just by being there, only time will help Just be there. Good Luck

Answer 5

Surprise her and take her someplace unexpected.