I started flirting with a married man just to be cute and friendly.He actually started flirting with me first and i thought nothing of it because i just like to flirt!i do not put out or anything so i am not a whore.We met when i was in my first year of college and could not stand each other.He thought i was spoiled and prepie.I thought he was a wigger and a looser because he already had a daughter who was 7 at age 23.Later on as fate would have it when i graduated he ended up being my boss for two hellish years.He left for entrepeneur work and actually contacted me a year later to invest as a partner.I did and thats where the flirting began along with the traveling.I knew he was attracted to me but told him i would not do anything with him unless he was single.Only problem is he actually left his wife and know i have mixed emotions.What can i do?
2007-01-04 13:03:23 · 30 answers · asked by Megan W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dated around plenty thank you and was married already once!I also never saw this coming!
2007-01-04 13:07:25 · update #1
He actually filed for divorce and it will be official in three weeks and after that i loose my excuse!
2007-01-04 13:10:06 · update #2
Wake up Woman!!!
Any woman that allows an innocent child to only be with her mother of father part time because of a divorce you might of caused is just plain sick..I'm sorry, but you are selfish, and you need your head examined..you had no right wrecking someones home because of your flirting..Find a man of your own and try talking him into staying with his wife..My parents split up when I was 7 because of some shameless s1ut..It was very hard for me growing up and till this day the relationship between my father and I could use a little help..
Please, think about the little one and her future before you give in to mindless needs..She loves he daddy, she loves her mommy, and she loves the 2 of them together..Dont do this to her, she is way too young to be going through something as painful as a divorce
After he gets what he wants from you wether it be sex, money, a little bit of fun, a babysitter, etc. He will go back to his wife because he loves her, not you..They always go back
I just dont get people now a days..You should've been gone a long time ago
2007-01-04 13:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by IceQueen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that this man is married should be enough for you to know it should not be happening. How would you like it if you found out your husband was flirting with a girl he worked with ?? Not a nice thought is it ?? Stop the flirting now it doesn't matter how you feel about him, he is married and totally out of line. He will only use you anyway and throw you aside when he tires of you and flirts with someone else. Flirting with married men / women is never really innocent, people get hurt !!!
2016-03-29 08:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first it is time for you to learn that others often take you at your word, so you need to be careful in regards to what you say and mean. If it isnt what you really mean, dont say it. And dont say things you are not fully prepaired to back up with actions.
Next, it is time for you to figure out that thing called unintended consequences. Just because you didnt plan on, figure on, factor in something, doesnt mean it cant or wont happen in the future.
Third, there is no such thing as innocent flirting, etc. Peoples emotions and feelings can be fragile and you have to make certain that you take that into account in your actions and reactions. If you exhibit that you may be interested in someone, they are not wrong to think you may be.
Now, as far as this guy goes, you are going to have to own up and tell him that you were full of it and that you didnt mean anything and that it was all fun and games to you. Then go take a look in the mirror. While he is a turd to have left his wife, you are a turd for possibly fueling the fire for it to come about.
2007-01-04 16:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it any wonder why the divorce rate is so high? There is no sense of dignity or self-respect on your behalf. Keep this in mind: Married people are off limits. You wouldn't like it if your husband flirted with someone else and left you either. What goes around, comes around. Personally, I wouldn't get involved any further and tell him to keep your interaction strictly business. If you have enough self-esteem and self-worth, you'd know what's right and live it. This just floors me.
2007-01-04 14:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes..."screw with the bull and get the horn". You, by what you say, have been the instigator and now the showdown comes. Obviously it has all been a game to you and now your in the hot seat because of it. You have no real interest in this guy so it wold be best for you to walk away and leave him be....find a real love, a sincere love, one that means something to you that will be more than just a game. Stop playing with peoples lives....please.
2007-01-04 13:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he is actually divorced, tread lightly and do not, I repeat, do not have sex with him until he is free and clear. There will still be communication between the mom and him because of the daughter so keep that in mind. Remember if he flirted with you he may do that with someone else as well. You may not be the only cheese on the plate.
2007-01-04 13:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty because he is not with his wife. He may not be telling you the truth and also if it is true he may have left for reasons not related to you. Your beginning...gone bad says that you know he's not good for you. No matter what he says he did for you, if you know hes bad news, stay away. why would you want a guy who cheated on his wife anyway even if it was flirting.
2007-01-04 13:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people take us at our word, maybe u should have put it to him differently, now he has left his wife, and thinks u will want to be with him, but think about what he did to his wife, think about her sorrow and pain just a minute. i would never trust a man who did this, with my heart. as in a few years u may find yourself in the same spot his wife is in now. maybe u need to back off, distance yourself from him, and find someone who didn't belong to someone else. you may be the object of his desire right now, but what happens when he gets tired of u like he did with his wife? it still isn't too late for him to reconcile with his wife, and do what is right. stay away from him so he will try to work on his marriage. do u really want a relationship that involved causing another human being pain and hurt?
2007-01-04 13:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing he was married with kids, you "innocently" flirted with him, "innocently" lead him on by telling him that you "would not do anything with him unless he was single"... obviously he thinks that you're worth all this effort and you're not sure what to do ?
Take responsibility for your actions and stop playing your silly games. You can't behave in this kind of manner and not expect consequences.
So, either take him or leave him alone. Stop it with the flirting and leading him on if you're seriously not interested in taking things to the next level.
2007-01-04 13:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not too good being dishonest it tends to bite you back. You've probally caused his wife untold pain with your flirtatious behavior. Live with the consequences and learn from your folly. We all make mistakes. Perhaps you could tell him his wife will suffer too much in the fallout and that your conscience hurts you too much to continue and this decision is final..
2007-01-04 17:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by dragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋