I'm 35 years old with two teenage kids how can i be a cool mom?

Answer 1

Be their Mom. Someone they can trust, respect, look up to, be proud of, confide in .... Don't try to be a friend instead of a Mom. Friends come and go ...

Answer 2

If you just be a good mom you'll be cool to your kids. There is a fine line. You need to be a mom and a friend but be careful not to fall into just friend catagory. Kids, whatever age, need a mom and will appreciate what you have do as a mom eventually if not today.

Be there for them. Love them. Listen to them. You don't always have to offer opinions or advice. I know sometimes we feel like we are supposed to have all the answers for them... but they don't really expect that. They sometimes just need a loving ear to vent to.

Answer 3

yea well i'm a teenage boy and i consider my mom a "cool mom".... she gives me my space and doesn't bother me and gives me almost all the freedom i could ask for.... she trusts me completely but i know that if i ever screw up she'll take the trust and all the priveleges that go along with it away in an instant. And all my friends love her cuz she's not a pain in the *** and she makes INCREDIBLE food. she likes to say "i'd rather have 15 16 yr old boys over my house and know where they all are then not know where my kid is".... that to me is a cool mom

Answer 4

You can be a cool mom only don't go overboard, because with your teenagers may go to taking advantage from you and start treating you like a friend and not a mother. You can be cool, by showing an interest in the type of future they would like for themselves. Play boardgames with them and invite some of their friends to join you all.

Answer 5

Definitely not by trying to be one of them.
You get the "cool" label by being understanding. Keep in touch emotionally with what it was like to be their age, and you will always be the one they (and all the other kids) want to turn to. If you remember it well (and it takes a bit of practice), you won't roll your eyes at their ideas and slang and clothes and music. You won't judge. You will listen and understand.
That doesn't mean you won't have any rules or boundaries or that no one will ever be told something for their own good or punished for getting out of line. It's just that if you understand and you "get" them, they know it, and they can forgive the fact that you will always be the parents, not the friend, and that you sometimes have to be the enforcer. That just comes with love.

Answer 6

be a cool mom..but be the mom first. A cool mom is fun but she enforces rules when needed..with love and kindness. a cool mom demands repect from her children. you need to understand what there level is but bring them up to yours and then they can learn lifes lessons. get them involved in your interests but get invoved in your childrens interest as well. Be funny and open while showing them how to respect others and show compassion to others. Let them know they have expections and goals to achieve. Laugh together. Find common ground. Just dont try to be one of them. They need friends but they need a mother most of all. show concern and use your proplem solving abilitites on their behalf. show them quiet dignity, grace and composure fix most dilemas in a mature way. They need to hear your approval and no mushiness, they need to hear that you approve. so tell them with a smile and a hug. be an example for them to follow, they are watching all the time. so do good things and one day you will be so proud when they do it for themselves. I have six children, 4 are adults and 2 still at home. I wish i knew then what i know now. Dont talk down to then when they have done something wrong..talk as it is a problem that you both will need to solve. They will tell you things you might not have heard and even come up with their own punishments. and realize their action hurt the people the love. but they need a mom to be the constant that will handle the difficulties and solve the problems with kindness and concern..never yelling. Good communication skills with out drama that comes so easy to teenagers. Sounds cool to me.

Answer 7

I don't neccesarily think you should be worried about being a "cool" mom, but be more worried about being a "GOOD" mom. My mom tried to be the "cool" one and all it got her was resentment from me. When my friends were around, she would tell them stories about when dhe was young, or worse yet, when I was young. She made me feel stupid. I love my mom very much, but from expierence, she was a better mother than a friend. If you want to be a cool mom, don't try and dress like your children or talk like them, but instead, help them be more in touch with what's in style. Take them shopping for the latest hip clothes. Take your daughter to get her hair done in the latest style, or get her nails done like every other teenage girl. Even if you just drive your children to the mall or movies to hang out with friends, that's more "cool" to them than you know.

Answer 8

You want to be a good mom, not a cool mom, and it's impossible to do both. And if you are worried enough about your kids to try to be a cool mom, then you are probably a good mom.

Answer 9

don't put up huge barriers on everything set limits on a lot of stuff but not everything. a cool mom is a mom that is responsible and caring but doesn't make her kids' lives hell on purpose. you can let them do fun safe stuff a lot and don't use your power badly use it for good not evil. compromise. instead of saying you can't go simply go with them they may reconsider. don't be the embarrassing mom that wipes kid's face in public. give them freedom with limits trust they won't respect you unless you respect them. be easy at first and tighten the reins after they screw up so you have an excuse

Answer 10

You have to be laid back and not to protective. But you should always be there when they need you, and stand by there side.Don't dress younger than your age(like mini skirts and tatoos) because that's just embarassing. You should show them that you care about there future and what they do. You should give them some space because they're growing up but not to much that they stay out of the house for to long and worrying you to death because you don't know where they are.The more responsible they are should be a reason to give them more freedom.

Answer 11

First, don't try to act too "cool" like getting tatoos, piercings, or wearing mini skirts. For me (im 14) a cool parent would be a parent who is understanding about restrictions. My parents are cool for me because they trust me enough to let me do what I want, like go to the mall by myself. Also, my parents bought me a cell phone, cus I needed one. But, they recognized that I needed one, which was cool.
It bugs me when parents try too hard to be the "cool" parent, by having NOO restrictions, whatsoever, on their kids actions, and by dressing and acting like they are 15 again.. But, if that's the kind of "cool" you're looking for, be my guest.
For me, real "cool" is having an understanding trustworthy parent who respects a. my personal space, b. my friends, c. my choices and decisions. A cool parent lets me make some of my own choices, but still knows when to step in and direct me.
Good luck!