Can my (16 yo) girlfriend'sparents forbid me to see her if she is pregnant with my kid (I am 17yo)? HELP PLZ!!

Question

ok here's the problem, my gf just found out that she is pregnant 16 and i am 17, and she is afraid to tell her parents bcuz we are afraid they will take the baby and forbid me to ever see her again!! So i have been looking for infromation for about 7 hours now and have came up with nothing, and i wanted to see if anyone can help me?

1. CAN HER PARENTS TAKE THE BABY

2. CAN HER PARENTS 4BID ME TO SEE HER

3. IS IT POSSIBLE FOR HER TO BE ABLE TO MOVE IN WITH ME TO RAISE THE CHILD

THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS

Answer 1

Look up emancipation in your state. Your girlfriend needs to try to become emancipated from her parents ASAP. Now, a lot of these questions are dependent on what state you are in. Correction, no state is SUPPOSED to allow forced abortions, but teens are routinly forced into abortion by their parents. Abortion doctors have held down teen girls kicking and screaming trying to save their child and as long as the parents said to do it the dr did it. I WOULD NOT TELL THEM UNTIL IT IS BEYOND THE POINT (USUALLY LIKE 22 WEEKS) WHEN IT IS LEGAL TO ABORT.

Answer by number:
1. Once the baby is born you have rights as it's father, you have the right to go to court and demand visitation or even custody of the child.

2. Yes, her parents can forbid her from seeing you. Just because she is pregnant with your child doesn't mean you have the right to see her, it just means you have a right to see your child once it is born. As long as her parents are still her legal guardians (which is why I say HAVE HER GET EMANCIPATED) then they can decide what happens with her.

3. Yes, but she needs to get emancipated from her parents.

Goodluck, and if you have any reason to think her parents will try to force her to abort and kill your baby, DO NOT TELL UNTIL IT IS TOO LATE TO ABORT, have her hide it, whatever you have to do to save the life of your unborn baby.

PS, sorry about any possible miss-spelling, I was typing fast to get this info to you ASAP. I'll try to back up sources in a few minutes.

Add: Okay, I felt it nessisary to add on when I read some comments. A 16y/o and 17y/o CAN raise a child and many have and do every day. It's hard, but raising a child at ANY age is hard, being under 18 just poses a few extra opsticals. You can still lead a normal life and hopefully the two of you will create a loving family for this new sweet baby. She could easily stay home and raise the baby, maybe work on getting her GED (the test is really easy to pass, if she's made it through 8th grade she'll pass the GED test) and possibly try to find some at home work she can do to supplement income. You can work a part time or fulltime job (depending on how much money you need) and attend school at your local community college. To be honset with you, that is what most people do once they are out of high school anyway, you are just getting a head start on it. Don't let people discourage you, it's not going to be an easy road, but no one eleses is either. No reward is greater then a childs love. You'll be fine, as a matter of fact, you'll be living a pretty good life compared to a lot of people.

Answer 2

I am not an attorney or anything but I will try and answer your questions the best I can.
1) Her parents cannot take her baby without your girlfriend giving them permission. She would have to willingly sign the baby over to them. They can however harass her until she gives in and sign the baby over to them.
2) Since she is a minor they can definitely forbid you from seeing her. However, they can't forbid you from seeing the child once its born. Of course you will have to go to court to get visitation rights.
3) The only way that she can move in with you is 1, if her parents kick her out or 2 she becomes immancipated. It would not be a good idea for her to run away or live with you without her parents consent because they can use that against her to prove that she is unfit and then they can take the baby away.
My advice to you is too discuss the pregnancy with her parents. They will eventually find out anyways. If they say for you to stay away then it's best that you do. I realize that would be difficult but you don't want to give her parents any ammo to use against you. Get your parents to help you find an attorney for visitation rights. And be sure to pay child support even if not court ordered. That way you can prove to a judge that you are a fit parent. Good luck hope everything works out for the 3 of you.

Answer 3

No, her parents can't take the baby. Only the state can do that, and that's if it is deemed that she is unfit. Being young is not a reason for being a bad parent, so don't worry about that.

Since she is still underage, her parents can forbid you to see her. Just b/c she is pregnant does not mean she stops being their child, and they are going to have VERY STRONG EMOTIONS about the matter.

I'm sure that she could move in with you if her parents don't object. They might still have rights over her, it just depends on what state you live in.

My advice over-all is for you and your girlfriend to be as open and honest to her and your parents about the situation as you can. Yes, they are going to be pissed beyond belief, but in the long run they will respect you for being straight-forward with them. If you hide your girlfriend's pregnancy and run around and keep things secret, it just makes you look like a child. You don't want that. Get yourself a job, too. The sooner you start being a responsible person the better things will be on down the line.

Good luck, and blessed be!!!!!

Answer 4

Answers to your questions in order:

1. No, they cannot take the baby. It's against the law and considered kidnapping. Even though you're both minors, that baby is yours, by law.

2. Yes, they can, since she is their child, and you're both minors. But they cannot forbid you from seeing the baby once it's born. If they try, you can go to court over custody.

3. Yes, it's possible. But understand it'll be a lot of hard work. I know you'll probably hear this a lot, but having a baby is rough. Really rough. And I'm 24 years old, a Navy vet, and married with no money problems! It's mentally challenging, that's the biggest thing. And the experience for men is soooo much different than for us women. My husband freaked out once our son was born because it wasn't until then that he realized that he was totally responsible for our son and his life. (Now things are better since he worked through everything.) So I'm just saying this to warn you that it's a totally overwhelming experience, and I hope you can handle it. And no matter what happens between you and girlfriend in the future, please be there for that baby. Trust me, it'll be worth it.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You will need to talk to a lawyer about getting her emancipated.
Emancipation is a legal act that separates a young person from the care of custody of his/her guardian. Emancipation is usually dependent on the ability of the minor. To support yourself, including food, clothing, and living space.


Calm down before. Start by being honest with the parents. Make sure you both have jobs so you can support each other. Her parents can NOT take her baby. Its her choice and if they try to do anything I am sure you can do an emergency movement out of the house. Till the courts can give her legal rights and emancipate her self. Dont let the parents force her in to any thing. But at least give them a chance.

2 YES she can forbid you from coming to her house, but cant control what she does out of the house. Your all most 18 or you can get emancipated also and if you two are in love you canget married before both of you are 18.

3. YES it is.

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 6

I could be wrong, but I don't think the parents can take the baby unless she lets them, she is giving birth to the baby, they can forbid to help her with the baby, but that is it. The parents can't forbid you to see the baby... THAT IS YOUR BABY TOO! I may be wrong again, but I don't think she can forbid you to see her because she is carrying your baby now, if there was NO baby involved yes. Legally, she can't move out until she is 18, and I would suggest you two finish high school first (if you have not already) I think it's great you want to help her, but finish high school, don't drop out, get a good job, and then move in together. Just some extra advice, it would be nice if you went with her to tell her Mom about the baby, tell the Mom I am sorry this happened SO SOON but, I LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER and I WANT to help her because this is MY baby too. That will really help. Good luck!

Answer 7

1. Her parents cannot take the baby away from her legally.
2. Yes, they can, but you can get a court order AFTER you prove legally through a DNA test that you are the father.
3. Yes, it's possible but it sounds highly unlikely. As long as she is a minor (depending upon the state you live in) she falls under the house rules of her parents. There may be an exception to this law as she might be consider emancipated since she is having a baby.

You, sir, need an attorney and you need to talk to your parents to protect your rights as a father.

Answer 8

1. No the both of you have custody of that child.

2. Yes they can but, it's really not possible to keep you away forever. That is your child too. They can't stop you from seeing your own child.

3. Unfortunately since she is only 16 years old in order for her to move in with you she would need her parents consent.

What you two can do is get good jobs and make enough money to support yourselves and your child. Then prove to the courts that you can take care of your selves and get emancipated. But it is a long shot.

Answer 9

Her parents can forbid her to see you and if she were to move in with you without being emancipated, she will be a runaway.

PS: A 17 and 16 year old cannot raise a child. Did you know it costs over $5000 just to HAVE a baby?

Answer 10

I'm not 100% sure, but i think being pregnant makes her emancipated. she has the decision to carry on the pregnancy or not, not her parents. i think the only way her parents can take the baby is if they prove her unfit in court. her parents can forbid you to see her. they can tell you that you cannot come on their property. i don't think she can move in with you until she turns 18. hope this helps a little. You can always call your local planned parent hood and tell them you want to talk to someone about these things.