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2007-01-04 12:52:25 · 11 answers · asked by Mary Jane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Survival kit. Very very clever! Friends! friends are so important for a child in the middle of the divorce! Thay provide support, and an escape from what is happening at home! If your child doesnt have a good friend try taking them to a church or another youth friendly environment where they can escape with other kids. Also your love. It is completely necessary for you to focus exxtremely hard on your children. Emotionally ( have talks ), Physically ( play ball, or board games, or go to the movies every friday) , and Also focus very hard on their schoolwork. Children in a divorce often drop their school grades, so make sure and sit at the table and help with schoolwork. One more thing. Never let you children be in the middle. Dont let them hear arguements, never talk bad about the other spouse in front of them ( thats a hard one) and never be tenses to talk about the divorce if your children should ask. Dont blame the divorce on anyone, including your ex. Just tell them that mommy and daddy couldnt work things out, and thought it best to move on. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-04 13:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Tristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends upon the age of the kids.
Look for a book like, "Mom's House, Dad's House" at Amazon.
The most important thing they need in their survival kit is to see that mom and dad want them to keep loving the other parent and spending lots of time with the other parent.
If they believe that the parents are friends (albeit no longer married), they will not just survive-- they'll thrive.
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2007-01-04 13:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say an encouraging note from the giver.. plus, there a lots of great books for kids written to explain and get them thru divorce (for all different ages)... possibly a counseling session or two? If the 'giver' is not one of the parents, I would say that an open offer to talk any time would also be great. Kids feel very left out and alone during divorce, having someone who's gone thru it to talk about it is great.
2007-01-04 12:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends a lot on the children's ages. Some kids are not as deeply affected as others. Every divorce is different. I think having a outside counselor is of benefit to a child any age.
2007-01-04 12:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making friends with other children whose parents are also went through a divorce. This simple tool does magics. Knowing that they are not different, and that there are many other children just like them, will make them feel much, much better.
2007-01-04 13:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making sure their enviroment stays intact. Pictures of happier times as well as new memories. Both of their parents love. Make sure they do not get the anger or fighting that they parents tend to do.
2007-01-04 13:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 calendar, one ear for mom, one ear for dad, and two tongues for the different answers both parents will need. Sorry
2007-01-04 12:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of tissue, divorce is horrible on their little hearts!
2007-01-04 12:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lot of love and talking it over with them both of you
2007-01-04 14:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋