My GF's 38 year old brother refuses to work. He lives in the guest room of my GF's house. There is nothing wrong with him, as a matter of fact he's quite smart.Everyone who knows him expresses their lack of respect for him due to his refusal to work.He asked the question"Why does it make a difference if I work or not" and "So what ,if I got a job at McDonalds or something people would respect me then?" I had trouble answering this with a strong arguement.
2007-01-04 12:51:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If possible answer as though you were explaining to him, why people disrespect him for refusing to work.
2007-01-04 13:07:52 · update #1
That is to say, you don't have to convince any of us ,it's him we need to convince.
2007-01-04 13:28:16 · update #2
I think this guy has a personality disorder. Although, he probably thinks he's the smart one. Ask him: does it occur to you that if no one had a place for you to live and no money to spare to pay for you to eat that you'd be living on the streets, begging? Does it matter to you that other people have to work and give you everything just in order for you to sit around all day? Why do you think you deserve to have everything handed to you when everyone else has to pay their own way? Do you realize this makes you completely dependant on someone else, that you can't even make your own choices in life?
It's a shame, but the only way he'll change is if his sister tells him to leave. If no one is enabling him, he'll have no choice but to figure out how to support himself. He needs counselling but no doubt he'd laugh at you for saying so.
2007-01-04 13:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
If he's as smart as he thinks and as you say, he will realize that in this culture, it is common for us to respect the work ethic. Those who do not have it, in most people's eyes, are guilty of one of the seven deadly sins -- sloth. No one really likes or respects a lazy person in this culture. It's not something personal against him. That's just the way it is. (Although many people may ENVY him, and then they'd be guilty of their own deadly sin!)
2007-01-04 20:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but sooner or later, the brother is going to be out on his own. What if him and his sister get into a fight and she kicks him off of the property? Mom and dad won't be around forever, and sooner or later he's going to need to eat. Seems like to me he's in dire need of maturing. He'll have to be responsible for himself sooner or later, whether he wants it or not. As for me, if he didn't' work, he wouldn't eat.
2007-01-04 20:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd have though you were talking about my Ex-husband - only he doesn't have a sister, has done this for 20 years (has a 9 year old daughter he ignores when it suits him) & is here in Australia.
The problem is when people abuse the "Family is important" card. & this is what's happening here. It's hard to advise not knowing the family situation - but as long as the family supports this git then there's not much that can be done.
Having said that - if your GF wants him out. I am assuming he's not paying any rent, food or utilities? I'd suggest starting to ask him to cover his living expences or she'll rent the room out...
2007-01-04 21:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rai A 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
who gives him money for clothes food ect ......mabey if he worked he would find some self respect
2007-01-04 20:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Society has rules. We're supposed to work and earn our keep. We're supposed to keep clean (e.g. bathe regularly, take care of our teeth, brush or comb our hair, etc.) We're supposed to be polite, no yelling, no shoving, etc.
He's violating society's rules and, therefore, must bear the consequences.
2007-01-04 20:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 11⤋