2007-01-04 12:40:09 · 19 answers · asked by Petarded 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married twice and am about to divorce for the second time. I would have married both men just to walk away with my beautiful children. I could have gone a lifetime without the pain they've caused, but the children are worth it.
2007-01-04 12:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes we forget the good things after a divorce, we forget what drew you to that person you married. At one time you loved that person enough to think you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them.
Unfortunately things and people change and all too many times people take the easy way out (divorce) rather than working on making the marriage work.
While I no longer love my ex husband nor have we spoke since the divorce was final. I don't hate him or wish him harm. Divorce is difficult to say the least ... I guess it should be.
My marriage was part of who I am today; good, bad or indifferent; it helped build me into the person I am today. Would I have married, yes ... would I have married the man I did ... I'm not so sure. Sure I regret things ... married or not ... we all make mistakes and hurt people we love. The key is to learn and to try to not make the same mistakes and to value what marriage is ... a commitment and not take that lightly.
2007-01-04 20:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I knew 100% that we were going to get divorced - no, I would not have gotten married. But I do not regret having been married to my former spouse, at the time it was a decision that made sense, whether or not things have changed down the road. It's kinda like asking - if you knew you were going to get into an accident on your way to work, would you have left the house that day? With the predictive powers of a crystal ball - no, I would have stayed home. However, as common as auto accidents are, I realize that every time I leave home, I'm running the risk of getting into one... But I still go places.
2007-01-04 20:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married when I was 24 and divorced at 27. Most people will tell you that they would have done it all over again even if they knew that it would end in divorce. My answer is very different. If I knew it was going to end in divorce, I would have never entered into the marriage. I believed that marriage was a promise before God and that it was forever and now that dream of marriage has been dashed. I have been divorced for 5 years and I would have never done it if I knew how it would end.
2007-01-04 20:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by angihorn2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most divorced people would propably tell you no.......but.....every experience in life teaches us something...and when we married, we all thought, for one reason or another, our marriage would last.
Just because we get divorced than then know the outcome....does not mean we could accurately say......we would not have gotten married in the first place......think about what you and every other divorced person has learned about life........in that marriage.....and also about themselves.
2007-01-04 20:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by angelcjc2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no had i known what was to be i would never have even looked twice at this man much less marrying him. only if i had that magic crystal ball, that could look into the future and warn us, but unfortunately no one knows what is to be. but no i never would have married him or left my boyfriend for him, as looking back today the man i did not choose, the man i passed over to marry him, was the better man by far, but at the time i seemed to be blinded by what i mistook for love. just a mistake i guess...a mistake i paid dearly for
2007-01-04 21:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I never wanted to get married to him in the first place. Even though I know now that everything that happens to us is to make us stronger, I would have never put myself through all the anguish and frustration.
2007-01-04 20:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by jad26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had known that my ex wife was going to screw around behind my back I would have run her sorry *** off allot sooner.Looking back I don't think I would do it again.I love my kids and I have stood beside them every step of the way but I can't see me doing it all over again.
2007-01-04 21:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might, but then my marriage was for financial reasons and given the time and the place yeah I'd probably get married.
2007-01-04 22:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wonder...What the Hell happened to the girl I loved enough to marry, and now have an everyday ritual while making a pot of coffee to ask God to please make her die today? Hope that answers your question....
PS. I am now happily married to my high school sweetheart(the past 16 years) and couldn't survive financially without her. She is truly wonderful. (Life is surely one strange trip my friend...) Although I still make the morning pot of coffee...
2007-01-04 20:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by jaypea40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋