Does anyone have any encouraging words to help push me into making this inevitable decision? My husband is an okay person with a big heart, but he hasn't done me right in the past few years. He has several good points and even more bad points. I'm not going into any of those beacause frankly, it's just old. I just need help making the final move to free myself from his insanity and to give my children a life free from the egg shells that have littered the bottoms of there little feet.
2007-01-04 12:39:26 · 10 answers · asked by CyndiDrum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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Best of Luck & God Bless You
2007-01-04 12:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by da realest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job. Get a roof over your heads. Get a new life. 1 2 3. Or if you own your own house together you'll need to file divorce papers and ask him to leave so the children can remain in the home that they are farmiliar with. Make sure that you have people around you when the papers are delivered to him.
2007-01-04 12:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly for you and your kids...your husband evidently isn't an easy person to be around.
Sweetie, no one can or should "push" you into anything, but it sounds as though you've already made your decision. If you're doing it for your kids' benefit, than that should be enough to get you started. Men come and go (yes even husbands) but our children are ours forever, and we need to do the best that we can for them. If they have "eggshells" on their little feet, it sounds as though they're somewhat frightened of him; I know you waant them growing up in a sane, happy household where they can be...well, kids. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-04 12:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to get into the mucky details, but you sound like you've been through a horrible marriage. Honey, if you know its the right thing to do for you, do it. At least you knew to pull away before you and your kids got seriously hurt. There's still room for recovery! Remember, before you can love someone else you must love yourself. Maybe you may have an exciting adventure of self-discovery after you end your marriage? I wish the best of luck to you, sweetie!
2007-01-04 12:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trustfully, there's nothing anyone can say to make you leave your husband. That's going to be fully on you to make that decision for it to be meaningful and be the best call for you & your children lives. So, sit down and write his pro's & con's toward the marriage, and if adultery isn't on the list get some counceling to make sure things can't be mended.
2007-01-04 12:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok from personal experience - my Auntie wasnt happy for one or another reasons in her marriage to my Uncle, she packed up and left to move in with her friend (who later turned out to be her new boyf). Her son now refuses to talk to her and spent Christmas with his Dad and then came to stay with The Grandparents we share. It's ultimately your decision - you cant let the world of Y!A influence you.
One suggestion and you can completely disagree try and talk to your husband, organise a babysitter for the evening, go out for a pizza or something and talk about the kids about your marriage - communication is a major part of relationships. Think of a relationship with your kids without communication you have to talk about what you both are wanting from the relationship talk about where you want to see yourselves down the road.,
Da realest i agree PUSH!!!!!! nad FROG
2007-01-04 13:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Hannie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your kids first and make plans on how you're going to manage. The better your plans, the more secure you will feel. I'd also advise you to get some counseling for yourself. Godloveya.
2007-01-04 12:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are doing the right thing then there isn't anything else to do but to leave for your sake and the kids.
2007-01-04 13:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you get scared look at their faces.
The longer you take to make the move the longer it'll take for them to recover and become the people they're supposed to be.
Do it for them.
2007-01-04 12:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is always ugly situation, but you can make it.. many have; wait to long and you miss something or someone maybe
2007-01-04 12:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Allen L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋