we have been a little strapped for cash the past few months and we have a third bedroom that we don't really use. my husband said why don't we move in this guy and he can pay 200/mo for the space. thing is i really can't stand this guy and he has almost came between my husband and i before. honestly he isn't a bad guy, it's just that i don't want to live with him. i told my husband i didn't want him to live here but he moved him in anyway. now he's here all the time and doesn't sleep in his room, he's always taking up the couch. he doesn't have a job, and all he does is play on the computer and uses my cell phone to call his girlfriends. he's already put a hole in the wall. if i ask my husband to tell him to do something like 'wear a shirt' or 'get a job' or 'don't bring your skanky gfs around my daughter' my husband flies off the handle and acts like i'm the one with the problem. what hurts the most is that my husband doesn't respect my wishes like i'm the one with the problem. help!
2007-01-04 12:37:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your husband is in love with him and cant admit it.
2007-01-04 12:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, give the roomie two weeks notice to get out. Tell him and your husband that if he's not out in two weeks he will find his stuff on the curb. If they don't take you seriously, PUT his stuff on the curb and call a locksmith to change the locks. If your husband wants to act like an a** about it, then don't give him the new keys either. When he comes back, take him to marriage counseling. The two of you have to eventually learn how to communicate and negotiate if the marriage is to last. But in the meantime, annoying, obnoxious roomie will be out of your hair.
2007-01-04 13:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like your hubby respects u anymore, or values your opinion. after all this is your home also and odviously doesn't consider your wishes. threaten to leave him, set boundaries with him, tell him flat out the man must go or u go. if he still won't listen leave him, or file for divorce and get a restraining order on him, ask for child support and emergency spousal support. your not the one with the problem, he is. he has created your problem, time to confront him. if he wants these trashy people over u than u didn't loose much. sometimes we have to stick up for ourselves, even if we haven't done it in the past. this man will only bring u grief, i would make life as miserable for him as i could, by not allowing him to use your computer or cell, by insisting he get on up off your sofa, u are allowing this jerk to disrupt your home life, don't be so nice to the man, and if your hubby tries to hurt u over the man, get a restraining order and throw him out along with the unwelcome guest. as long as u allow this kind of treatment they will keep doing it to u.
2007-01-04 14:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a place to stay for a couple of weeks? Pack you bag. Tell your hubby that when the dead-beat is gone, you'll come home. He is definitely disrespecting you and you let him do it. So....now make him make the choice and from now on, nobody gets to "move in" unless you both ok it. You're renter will be gone soon. Godloveya.
2007-01-04 12:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is putting this jerk ahead of you---his wife---and your daughter. That says very, very little for him. He sounds very similar to my first husband; he put his friends ahead of me because he basically just disrespectd women, even those he claimed to "love". You didn't mention divorce as an option, but I think it's your best choice. You deserve someone who will put you and your daughter on a pedestal, not the back burner.
2007-01-04 13:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know that this is threatening your marriage and you are very serious about this.
You may have to leave to let him know how much this bothers you.
Sometimes a husband doesn't think of his wife as an equal partner and you have to wake him up to reality.....good luck.
2007-01-04 12:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband needs to have a great deal more respect for you and obviously doesn't. You should pack your things and leave ... let him know you'll be back when you can have your house back.
2007-01-04 12:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wants me to give him?
2016-08-10 20:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband hates my friend?
2017-02-20 20:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Gardie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u have any friends ?
2016-07-05 20:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get this bum out of your house! Clearly, his life-style is not appropriate for your daughter. Calmly discuss the situation with your husband.
Good luck! :)
2007-01-04 12:45:45 · answer #11 · answered by Yumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋