I'm 22 and don't know what to do!!!?

Question

Me and my fiance want to have a baby one day but, I won't be able to have children without medical help. He was with a girl for a year that had a child and he loved it. He brings up the kid all the time and all the good times he had with her. I'm nice about it and just act like i'm happy for him. Then we get into a fight and i bring up the fact that I can't stand to hear about it. I feel like because I can't fufill his needs for children as soon as we get married that I'm worthless. Part of me is afraid that he looks at me as an incomplete woman. What do I do? How should I approach him? A lil tip (he doesn't like me to bring it up). He gets Pissed!

Thanks everyone. Da realest thanks for a good try but he does respect me. And I want you all to understand He KNOWS I can't get pregnant naturally. We have talked about the pregnancy thing and he says he is okay with just paying for medical treatment. And just a reply to one other persons comment (We are able to talk about the pregnancy, just not the child) It isn't a problem"within " me. it's just I don't want him to bring it up so much.

Answer 1

Sweetie!!!

I hate to tell you this, but he doesn't respect you. When a man states that he wants to marry you, he would respect you!!
If you feel that he feels that way, than you must confront him. If you feel that it is hard to approach moooooooooove on!!

In the long run, you don't want to be with someone that doesn't respect you!!


Best of Luck & God Bless!

Answer 2

Well, I think the issue lies more within you, rather than in him.

Many woman looking for a husband would be delighted with the sheer joy that he had while getting to know a little kid.

You're likely quite sensitive about the subject, given what you believe about your body.

If you two aren't mature enough yet to discuss something like your ability to bear children, you two aren't mature enough yet to get married. Such a discussion is a huge one, that both sides should handle with compassion and understanding.

All you can do is let him know that you've been told it could be difficult for you to have a child, but that you do want one. There is always adoption, and who knows what sort of medical help may let you have a child.

If he doesn't want to be with you because of it, it's better to find out what sort of man he is when you're 22 rather than 32.

Answer 3

Well dear i am sorry you have to go threw this, and i know if you have to go threw medical help, then you will right? I don't think you have to look at it as if it is wrong on you, (because it isn't) your boyfriend should not bring up this kid all the time, it is very insensitive of your boyfriend to be like this, if he loves you he needs to quit and realize how it is for you, talk is key to this situation, and if he keeps it up (that is wrong) get a new bf. Good luck- don't really know what else to say.

Answer 4

I would try not to bring up the problem, but when he does and it hurts your feelings, I feel you should just let it go at the time. When all is going well between you, Say "I feel hurt when you talked about ___________________" (our problem). If he is caring, the he should and hopefully will know and understand what is happening when he starts discussing his past.

Answer 5

If you know you have problems and he's expecting kids you should work on that now before marriage. If nothing changes then find out what he thinks about adopting before your relationship turns sour behind this situation.

Answer 6

if he really loves you its not that big of a deal you probally think more of it than he does and if its ment to be you will have one keep good prayer in mind and with God on your side it will happen if not maybe you were put together to adopt God has different things instore for different people

Answer 7

wow, sorry to hear that, you would have been perfect for my little broken family, i already have a little girl with me, mom ran off a few years ago, you would have been perfect