I'VE BEEN TRYING TO PATCH THINGS UP WITH MY HUSBAND FOR SOME TIME NOW ,HE SAYS IT WHAT HE WANTS TO BUT I'M NOT FEELING IT. HE IS OFTEN DISTANT AND NOT VERY ROMANTIC HE'S IN THE MILITARY THERFORE WE ARE OFTEN SEPERATED.
2007-01-04 12:21:42 · 12 answers · asked by mzmo314 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can only empathize with you. The best thing for you to do is pray that God, restore your marriage. Also, try to ask him what is so different now. Put your trust in God, and he will never leave you or forsake you. I know when me and my hubby were going through things, i learned to put my trust in him and lean on him.
I would suggest looking into Shekinah Glory Ministries &Juanita Bynum. These helped me!!
The Threshing Floor-by Juanita Bynum
Best of Luck & God Bless You & Your Family!!!
2007-01-04 12:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by da realest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things to work through. What helped me after years of trying to patch things up was to do a time-line of the relationship. You have to be honest with yourself because it dose take two in a relationship sometimes you may be the issue while others are his. Once you do this and look at it with a fresh set of eyes you will see if there is hope to save the relationship or there is not. If you do find the hope then ask your husband to do the same with the same ground rules then compare them. This will give you a template to work on your relationship. If you can't find the common ground then end it as fast and as painless as possible. I wish you luck, for me I ended the relationship because I realized that there was nothing I could do to save it. May you have better luck.
2007-01-04 21:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his mind is on other things right now being in the military. I have no right answers here for you only that what is truly in two peoples heart is very difficult to remove. Give it some time, get involved with something in your life that you truly enjoy to take your mind off this challenge going in your life. When we don't give room to a problem it appears to have no real answers. When in any type of doubt it is sometimes better to do nothing and go with the flow of life. Some things naturally work themselves out. Remember he is in the military they have "alot going on right now." Take care of you....
2007-01-04 20:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Gloria J P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's being distant as a way of protecting himself from being hurt anymore. You both have to want to fix the relationship for it to work out, though. I'd suggest maybe talking to a counselor and see if you can work out your own thoughts and emotions and decide just what direction you want to go. Joint counseling would be best, but with him gone so much, that would be difficult. If he's willing to commit to fixing things, then he needs to understand that he has to make an effort, too.
2007-01-04 20:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Katasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin is going threw this and this is what i told her if your not happy and you are putting all the work into it andyour still not feeling like anything is working then just walk away you have tried is this what you want for the rest of your life to never really know for sure if its the right thing i have been married for almost 10 years and i am 28 and i know my husband loves me and that its going to last if you have doubts then that there should tell you something about your relationship hope you figure out what your going to do
2007-01-04 20:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by margesimpson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children it's not so easy to give up on the relationship. Maybe you hope things will improve. Maybe things will never change. Can you live with that? It will require courage to change the situation. Can you be happy with him or do you need to start a new life with someone else in order to be happy?
2007-01-04 20:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by SIGGY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know.........
You just know it, feel it and sense it. It is usually when COMMUNICATION is null.
If there is no communication, no matter how hard you try it is lost already.
I agree with many contributors here. Try to talk seriously with him. If he doesn't open up then you should think about the next step for the sake of both of you.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 20:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by aleANDjohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not feeling anything then theres nothing there i know it hurts but its best if you just get out of it now before it gets too bitter short and sweet and to the point is always best no matter what anyone says,if there are kids involved thats a whole other story
2007-01-04 20:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by chipsndip74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard one that gal
you only get one life
live it
listen to what your heart says
im in the same situation so i really know where your at
i8ts hard to give up security and hurt some one youv been with
but your heart tells you every thing
2007-01-04 20:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by roy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you want to hear the truth.
2007-01-04 20:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by SenlenaHorris18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋