what the hell is wrong with me?!?

Question

ok so I find guys attractive but it's like when they ask me out or want to get close I dont like it at all and i think I get disgusted and I continue to push them away...and I get a lot of guys asking me out but I reject every single one of them that people label me as the one who thinks she's too good for everybody...which is NOT true..
i just use the excuse that I'm picky which is not working anymore...
I've never been with one but I don't want a boyfriend because I don't even think I like them like that..I mean yeah I will think they are attractive physically but I don't want to get close to one...and I'm not even sure if I like girls I would like to try but I'm one lost, confused soul...........

Answer 1

your just nervous. try calming down a little.

Answer 2

I felt similarly to this before I came out to myself as a lesbian. You may very well be straight as an arrow, but neither door is worth closing just yet. It's ok to question for a while, years even. It's ok to wait until someone, male or female, sweeps you off your feet and confirms something either way. Don't label yourself too soon. Give it time, and don't do anything your heart tells you not to. Trust your own feelings, and eventually, even if it takes years, things will get clearer.
Good luck!

Answer 3

could be you are too young and just not emotionally ready for a boyfriend.. or, did you ever have a traumatic event in your past that would scare you away from allowing a guy to get physically and/or emotionally close to you? were your parents abusive in any way? did your dad abuse your mom? anything like this could scare you off from dating a guy.

if not, then maybe you are bi or lesbian. hard to say..

if you think you like girls, well, just spend time with some of your girl friends and see whether or not you develop feelings for them.. they may not be interested in you in that way, but at least you can figure out for yourself whether you are lesbian, bi, or straight. or somewhere in between.

i'm 33 and i am still confused about who i am.. bottom line, don't be afraid to go on a date with anyone.. it's just a date.. it's not like you have to make a lifetime commitment..

Answer 4

My first question to you would be to ask how old you are. I'm guessing you're in your teens, in which case, relax.......it's completely normal to be confused about this sort of thing at that age (if you're older, that's ok....there's still nothing wrong with you....it would seem that you just need more time to figure yourself out). People place *way* too much importance on relationships and whether they're in one or not. My advice would be to just take it easy and wait for your brain to sort itself out. If you don't want to have a boyfriend, then don't, and if people want to label you, then that's their problem, not yours. You don't need to make excuses for yourself to other people.

Answer 5

Iris - Perhaps you are not ready to date. And there is nothing wrong with that. Dating may not be a priority for you now. Do not feel that you must live up to an image/peer expectations that you date guys. Instead of dating do you have a group of friends both male & female that you can hang with? Learn to relax with both genders, have fun, get to know yourself before you even consider aligning yourself with guys, girls or both.

Eventually, someone will catch your eye - be it male or female. When that happens go with your instincts and enjoy yourself.

Answer 6

Don't be so concerned with whether or not you like girls. You're acting like you need to have a relationship. You don't. I'd recommend doing a little soul searching and self-evaluation. Meditate or paint, something like that - find yourself without anyone else.

Once you've found yourself and you really know yourself the answer to your question should be readily apparent.

FP

Answer 7

Nothing is wrong with you. Your just not ready to be in a relationship that way - with either a man or a woman. Take your time and meet lots of people, when you find one that you "Have" to be close to, whether it's a man or woman - you'll know and it will seem natural and right for you.

Answer 8

maybe because the guys are perverted pigs and you don't like that. and you want to wait for the right guy to go out with, and maybe there are no decent guys that ask you out.

but maybe you are bisexual. you never know. if you are sexually, physically, or emotionally romantically attracted to a girl, you might be a lesbian or bisexual. and if that's what rows your boat, and if you don't have a problem with it, then that's fine. but you can't control who you are attracted to. if you can see yourself making out or being in a relationship with a girl, this is anothe sign you are a lesbian/bisexual.

honey, the bottom line is only YOU and yourself only can determine what sex attracts you. but whatever you choose, be happy with it.

Answer 9

Nothing is wrong with you. You just do not like physical contact.
My wife hates physical contact. I am the opposite, put your hands all over me! I love it. Touching her makes her skin crawl. That is what makes relationships interesting; opposites attract!

Have patience. You will find a guy that likes you for you. A talker, not a hands-on person.

Answer 10

You sound Asexual.

However, if you WANT a relationship, consider therapy! If you can't afford a personal therapist, call your local county Health Clinic and see if they have a psychologist/therapist on call that you can speak with. They usually charge a small fee (very reasonable) and they will guide you to find the root of your 'reason' for your fear of closeness.

Good luck with that!!!

Answer 11

You are not picky. You just waiting for the perfect one to come. All these are cute and all but they don't have the qualities in a man that you want. Just wait the right one will come.