What does it mean if i cant concentrate on geting an orgasm when my partner is inside me and is trying to play with my clitoris? Or if he is giving me oral and puts his finger inside? Also what can i do to stay wet and continue having intercourse after i orgasm and partner hads not? To tell you the truth the only thing that has worked is thinking of being with someone else, i know thats wrong but thats a whole other issue help me solve the issues above (concentrayion and wetness)
2007-01-04 12:00:36 · 17 answers · asked by L S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2007-01-04 12:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guide him to what you like to make you concentrate more on you getting off. Maybe try you being on top where you control it. As for oral I have not once had an orgasm from that maybe you are the same. And about the getting dry, go buy some lubricating gel, that will help.
2007-01-04 20:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by jule9104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope you are old enough to be asking such things!! anyway it seems that you have lost attraction to your partner or you are bored with the whole situation...stress might also be a factor...alcohol always helps me to relax and clear my mind so that i can concentrate on the things i want instead of my mind thinkin about what im going to do tomorrow...for the issue of being dry well make a trip up to the local store and get some stuff for that...problem solved...and never be scared to take things a step further and bring some "toys" into the bedroom
2007-01-04 20:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just arent attracted to this person. If you are only dating maybe you should get a new bf. But dont it just because of the sex. If you are married talk to him. Pretending to have the orgasm like moaning helps the orgasm come too. Good luck!!
2007-01-04 20:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by treehugger421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo need to sit down and think if you are really s*xually attracted to this person or if you just care for them or feel obligated to them?
If there is s*xual attraction there, maybe he's not as highly driven/s*xually uninhibited/good at s*x as you...in which case, you should both have a tactful but necessary chat about this to see how you can both be satisfied and learn to fully satisfy each other.
Life is too short for unsatisfying s*x
2007-01-04 20:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by lilacwalls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with fantasizing. Whatever works in your mind, is what you should use. As long as you're not actually cheating on him, then you're not doing anything wrong. Believe me, guys fantasize too!
You can try using a vaginal lubricant. They sell them in the feminine hygene aisle at the grocery store. If you have already hit your peak, and he takes too long...you are bound to get dry. That's how it works.
2007-01-04 20:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should start having sex with that someone else that does get you wet. You're with the wrong guy.
2007-01-04 20:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be turned on mentaly what ever makes you feel sexy
ie fantasize about some thing or some one
mental sex is as important as being physical
ask your self what would or does turn you on and share it with your partner
2007-01-04 20:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by roy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's weird. the guy usually have an orgasm first. it's not wrong to think of some1 else.
2007-01-04 20:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by soccerjock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasize.....thats the best way......imagine the most e.rotic things in ur mind.....eyes closed......works wonders.....have a couple of drinks....that helps too.
2007-01-04 20:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋