my mom thinks I need phsychiatric help cause I listen to what she calls doom and gloom depressing music?

Question

she hates Gothic people and she thinks that I have to follow her example and won't listen to me she doesn't understand that Iam at an age where I like that and will I ghrow out of it I don't knowm but I just wish I had some freedom about myslef I;'m not doing drugs or anything I just like the music and the style. could someone plese help

Answer 1

Adolescence is a difficult time to get through, it's when young people are trying to figure out just who they are and what their thoughts are about things. Some adults tend to forget what it was like to be in the 13-18 age group, and don't understand how important it is that their kids be allowed to find themselves and express themselves how they're comfortable. Not to say parents should let kids run free, there should be limitations and they should always be there to enforce the rules, but there should be room for freedom of expression.

Maybe talk to your mom and point out to her the 'good' side of you. Point out that you don't sneak out of the house at night, go do drugs, come home drunk or stay out all hours without you letting her know where you're at. If you have good grades, remind her how important school is to you and you plan to keep getting those good grades, but you need the freedom to figure out who you are and where you're going to go in life. If you do any extra activities that are positive, remind her of those (things like mentoring other students, volunteer work, etc.) She doesn't have to like the music you listen to or the way you dress, but so long as you aren't running down the 'wrong' path, she could try to respect who you are right now.

Answer 2

Remind you mother that she too was a teen once... Like a angry teen is anything new! You arent doing any drugs and you sound sensible enough to listen to music and not be influenced by it. I was a freak when I was younger- pierced, dreadlocks, layered skirts & petticoats, I listened to Marilyn Manson & Tu Pac, ( weird combination, I know...). My point is, I grew out of it ,( I do listen to the music sometimes- Marilyn freaks out my daughter a bit though..), and that is what humans do- we learn, grow, change and usually are better for it. Most parents are like this though- and I think it is a good thing because it shows that she does care. It would be bad if she said, here use my black eyeliner, oh and have a bong on me..... Get some ear phones and change into the clothes you like outside your home somewhere private. Might sound sneaky, but you are a teenager.

Answer 3

Parents for some reason don't understand what "adolescents" are...Everything you do and go through in your life is basically a phase, from the music you listen to, the way you do your hair, the way you dress, and h3ll even the food you eat...They are all phases of life...You may not grow out of the stage you are in but you will at least grow up and learn not to be disrespectful {I would hope} I think your mom needs to realize that this is who you are and just deal with it and let the phase pass by...
I go through the same thing with my 2 girls, one of them graduates this year and I have been through every phase possible...Parents always use that phrase "In one year and out the other" well in some cases you do have to do that with your parents, I tell my own kids that.....
Hope all works out for ya, and good luck through all the rest of your many phases to come :}

Answer 4

I think that when you are young you should be able to express yourself,it is a healthy thing to do. Your Mom should accept you the way you are because you can't judge a person just from the way you look,looks are very deceiving. I think your Mom just doesn't understand the Goth thing, sit her down one night and tell her what you like about the lifestyle and explain that all Goths don't do drugs and all of that. Your Mom is just trying to protect you but, she doesn't understand you, give her some time to understand.

Answer 5

Obviously your choice of music is your own. However, you need to know that what you listen to does affect your attitudes and moods (that's been scientifically proven at UCLA, and MIT among other schools and studies). Yes, you will grow out of it but perhaps, just perhaps you might want to consider carefully your music choices. There is a LOT of good music out there of all types. Be careful to select things that build you up, not tear you down.

Answer 6

my mom thought i was too. its pretty sad. i think i can listen to pantera and not rip anyones head off. haha my mom wouldnt let me wear my h.i.m. shirt. haha yes thats hardcore stuff....anyway

only thing you can hope for is what i did, wait until your 18 (i graduated on a thursday and moved out sunday)
i had to see a psychologist for anxiety problems however and if she does make you see one, hopefully they will be good enough to understand and may suggest SHE go in for counseling with you to maybe suppress some of her paranoia.

Answer 7

hmmm...i dont really know how u feel but i can relate cuz my parents think im starving myself but im not and i think its a faze as well. tell ur parents tht there is nothing wrong to listening to tht i listen to it to. a lot of ppl do. so yeah i guess what they need to do is just relax about it.

Answer 8

Tell her you are who you are and tell her she has to deal with who you are.