Who came up with this? I doubt God really wanted us to make promises that we will love someone forever and put up with all their **** no matter what just cause we said we would. God knows people change. Who came up with this marriage bullsh**?
2007-01-04 11:52:26 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say put up with people's **** I don't mean leaving their dirty underwear on the floor. I mean abusive and mean. There are a lot of women on here that say they can't leave their abusive husbands because the took a "vow" in front of God and God wants them to stay married. I wasn't talking about the trivial things that the rest of you are mentioning.
2007-01-04 13:45:12 · update #1
"God" didn't come up with it to begin with...HUMANS did. Marriage originally had nothing to do with religion. It was a civil union between a man and a woman because families in ancient times revered sons more than daughters, some cultures would go so far as to murder new born female babies in order to make room for a possible male baby the next time. However women prevailed and in more and more cultures daughters were allowed to stay within the family, after all they COULD be taught to cook and clean. However when a daughter was grown it was time for her to be out the only way it could be done was for her father to find some man to take her off his hands. THAT is whre marriage came into play. A father would offer land/lifestock/money to any man who would marry his daughter and a contract was made. When the Christians began attempting to force those of other cultures and religions to convert they incorprated marrige into their tenants. Thus giving marriage "God's blessing".
2007-01-04 15:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe marriage is intended for those of us with an ounce of morals and character. Maybe those few of us can handle other's quirks and even learn to love them. Maybe it takes maturity to move on past the infatuation stage without losing all interest because your partner leaves socks on the floor, etc.
Maybe that's exactly what love and marriage is all about:
REAL love does exactly that--puts up with the one you love's ****.
If this is your attitude toward relationships, I can guarantee that you will never, ever experience a relationship lasting longer than 6 months, a year at the most.
You say, "just cause we said we would"
Do vows and promises mean nothing to you? That is the whole point of marriage--never make those vows if you're not absolutely sure that you're willing to put up with anything and everything marriage can throw your way.
You have the mentality of a high schooler (no offense to high schoolers, I know many more mature than this, just using the example of the average relationship viewpoint)--as soon as something goes wrong, or gets hard in a relationship, you want to back out?
Sweetheart, that doesn't even come close to beign love. That is plain and simple, superficial infatuation.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 12:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I love all of this marriage bull sh**t!!! I just got married two weeks ago to a man(my best friend) that I have been with for 4 years and I Love him more and more each day! Yes, we fight at times and yes, I get tired of picking up his dirty soxs ,but marriage is a bond that was established by God and is anything but bullsh**t. Yes, God knows that people change and grow but when you are married your are seen as one being to God so he expects you to grow and change together! Also if you truly love someone all of the bulls**t in the world will not change that!
2007-01-04 13:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the research I did (in a very short time period), marriage was a civil institution used mainly to define bloodlines and give rights to property until the 5th century and handled strictly through local government. Around that time, churches got involved, and included most of the moral rules surrounding marriage, hence religious officials started marrying people. Love had very little to do with marriage until close to the 1500s and it was introduced through poets & musicians in France, hence the modern day "fairy tale romance" was born. God has never had anything to do with any legalities we deal with today- it's all about people in power and what they wanted and how much money they were willing to pay to get it done. I believe the concept of "til death do us part" came from the church side of things, and in my opinion, was really there to attempt to merge the original idea of marriage (property and children) with the then "new idea" of marraige (love)- "grow to love". If you think about that, and understand that marriage came from the roots of simply being able to say who got your cows and chickens what sire you wished to recognize, the BS we put up with today as married couples can't help but be better than what used to be dished out when wives were much like property to their husbands and all of society agreed with it. Good thing we weren't born then huh?
2007-01-04 12:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm. Are you o.k. ? You seem to be a little upset. Just know my dear, you don't have to get married especially if you don't believe in marriage. Let's not make assumptions that God wanted this or that or He didn't want this or that because for real we don't know. So, if you feel that marriage is a bunch of bull, don't get married. Simple!
2007-01-04 12:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that there are women like you out there who need to try the new flavor of the month all the time. Maybe you should not get involved with men at all.
2007-01-04 12:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of people that have spent there entire adult lives together divorce rarely happened before the 1960's. From anything you read or see people seemed happier then,now divorce rate, crime, suicide are all up so yes people change, times change. Hopefully someday both will change for the better.
2007-01-04 12:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by chosen37 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you experienced marriage and had a lot of bullsh##,
I am married and have been for 20yrs and have not
experienced the bullsh## that you are talking about.
2007-01-04 13:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan on having kids? If yes, then I highly recommend marriage. If not, then go ahead and skip marriage and relationships at all with men if they worry you that much.
2007-01-04 14:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a choice to be in a loving committed marriage or to stay single.
2007-01-04 12:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by michelle a 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋