2007-01-04 11:49:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Chances are good, you're not "in love" with him. You may feel good around him, as though he compliments you. I would suggest you step back & take a look at the qualities & traits he has that you admire.
Then, you work on developing those traits in yourself. You can hang out with him, & even know the things you see in him that you admire. Maybe ask him how he learned that, or what he did to develop that in his life, & then you try it, too.
As you take your focus off him & put it back onto yourself, you'll be amazed at just how strong of a man you really are.
This also helps "uneroticize" your feelings.
If at all possible, I would also suggest you work on developing your relationship with your Dad. this is often the source of unresolved same-sex issues.
Good luck.
For more help, check out www.gaytostraight.org
2007-01-04 11:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't feel ashamed. What you are experiencing is a normal part of sexual development - if you are developing. I'm guessing you are.
Same-sex attraction has to occur in some stage of development. If we are able to resolve that, identify with our own gender, by the time we start puberty, we can be attracted to the opposite gender.
What do you mean by love? If you care for someone deeply, that's nothing to be ashamed of. That's great, and something every healthy person should be able to feel.
If you mean sexual desire, that is a common part of puberty for many, for some it carries into their adulthood. You need to live your life as healthy as possible. In time, you will grow into an adult, and will be ready for sexual expression.
I'm not going to tell you what is right or wrong. Look to the adults you have in your lives for examples. Ask them your questions. You'll know the right thing to do.
2007-01-04 11:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to feel ashamed, if you're a young teenager is very common for same sex attraction. These feelings often go as you get older but if they don't accept who you are because there is still nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-01-04 17:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by stargazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel ashamed. I mean, did you choose to fall in love? I doubt it. You don't get to choose who you fall in love with....even if you really want to. You can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall. Just like you can't make yourself not fall in love with someone. That's the way I look at it anyway. Besides, if you love this person, isn't it better to be happy even if it is with someone of the same gender than to deny yourself that happiness because it may not be the norm according to society?
2007-01-04 11:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been gay since as long as I can remember, always a little different. This meant that affections for guys and dating in high school was a nightmare. BUT everyone goes through deep emotions when they find themselves attracted to someone. This isn't a gay thing or a straight thing...just a part of life. If you are attracted to him and you feel you can trust him, you might want to say something to him. THIS IS YOUR decision, something that you must feel right about. It's a rollercoaster ride telling someone that you're attracted to them or in love with them. It takes courage and trust to let your gaurd down and be honest with them. Life is worth taking risks, that's not to say that you won't be hurt emotionally from time to time. That's part of being human.
2007-01-05 04:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by knottyboywayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really... I see lots of people going through stuff they shouldn't have to, if there were such a loving god as the one you describe. I've been somewhat fortunate in life, but I don't consider myself to be someone chosen by a "loving" being to bestow special favors on.
2016-05-23 04:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you absolutely KNOW for sure what the sexual orientation is of this person or has the same feelings for you, then you do NOTHING.
No need for feeling ashamed, attraction happens. You only need to make sure of this person own sexual orientation. If it's in your favor, then you can pursue it. If not, then you leave it alone, let it go and move on.
2007-01-04 11:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by S H 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont feel ashamed. do you feel this way to other people of the same gender?
i think its normal but i also think this answer should be comming from some one who is homosexual.
who knows maybe its just a 'thing' you might want to talk to someone whos homosexual at your school.
if your openly homosexual & he is too i think you should go for it.
2007-01-04 12:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are going to tell you to feel ashamed and go to hell. But I beleive its not your choice. Don't feel ashamed. You need to tell somone. The first person has to be someone you trust. Tell them your gay and see how they respond. You can't decide this so don't feel bad ever.
2007-01-04 11:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by tictac_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all you must find out hes sexual orientation...if hes gay or bi...if hes none of the sexual types that i described..then he wont love u back so no point in liking someone who wont ever like u.. so you gotta find out what he is...does he ever make any homofobic remarks? if he does then you shouldnt
2007-01-04 11:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋