I have hardly any friends at school. I'm not hated, i just dont talk to people at all becuase i dont know what to say. My only friends are 3 people i've known since kindergarden. I'm really social around them because it just comes natural talking to them, But around people that aren't them (even people I know well) it's hard for me to talk to them .Since I dont talk to people at school i'm unpopular,well more like unknown. One of my friends who has tons of friends and is like by everyone is positive if i just talked more everyone would love me. My other friend who doesnt go to my school is convinced im popular and doesnt really believe me when i say i dont have friends at school.
Is it possiable for me to talk to random people and for it to come as easy as when im talk to my best friends?
2007-01-04 11:29:46 · 3 answers · asked by ducttape3243 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm shy too. I'm starting to try and break the habit. What I did (and am doing still) was talk to people in my classes that looked like nice people. I say hi to them and give them a compliment (like "Nice shoes", "Cute shirt", etc) Some people may be nice and talk back, others may talk back but look as if they don't care to talk to you. And that's OK, not everybody is going to like you but who cares? Focus on the people who DO like you. Remember that friendships take time to build-they won't happen in two days. You have to keep talking to them and they have to keep talking to you. If you're the only one who seems to be making the effort and talking to them-then it's time to move on and find other people to chat with.
Whenever you feel hesitate about talking to new people do what I do: Swallow your fears and just do it!!
Good luck!
2007-01-04 11:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. when I am not with friends I will not speak a word, but whe I am with friends I am me. Just go out there! I am cheering you on! Just start by saying,"hi." to the people inside of stores that greet you. And go to random people and ask them questions, I am not the greatest person to answer, but I am "telling" you to do stuff out of character! Just talk, it is the only reason why one of my greatest friends is friends with me, and we had been going to the same school for two years and we were in band those two years, and we didn't start talking until after I spoke to him. Talking is your friend! Or else it is just a feind... I don't know. Try it out and you decide.
2007-01-04 11:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by sherbert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah its possible, it just takes time and effort in the beginning, eventually talking to people will become second nature.
2007-01-04 11:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋