My wife, who i havent really caught on a lie in four years we have been married, told me that she wanted to go visit her old folks and that her mom already paid for the airplane tickets. One day after she left, i found out that she used my debit card to pay for the tickets and that the times she was suppoused to arrive and depart were different from the ones she said and not only that but that she bought the tickets a few hours before she was suppoused to leave. Even we have talked on the phone while she is still there, she hasnt said a word about it. Then i look back to a couple of issues or situations that could have been dangerous for a relationship and i get suspicius where i believed her truly innocent.
2007-01-04 11:27:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like the lines of communication have broken down between the two of you. You've basically caught her in what could be a lie. You have two choices: 1) Confront her about it and see what's going on, or 2) Start gathering information so you have enough to prove what is going on. Look at phone bills... any strange phone numbers? Look on the computer she uses.. look in the history and see if there are any mail sites she accesses that you aren't familiar with. Look in the history of instant messenger if she uses it and she what's in the "received files". Call her mom's house and see if she is truly there and when mom answers, thank her for buying the tickets so your wife could go see her and see what the reaction is (perhaps mom is reimbursing her?)(this is also a way to see if she is truly there- is she calling from mom's or is she using a cell phone?).
It could be as simple as mom told her she'd reimburse her or as complex as an affair. it's up to you to decide and be careful how you approach it. Make sure you have proof if you're going to accuse her of having an affair, because it can drive a big wedge in your marriage.
2007-01-04 11:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you "haven't caught her on a lie in four years" doesn't necessarily mean that she HASN'T lied. There's gotta be more than a lie about plane tickets to make you think that she might have someone else, though. Maybe she thought you'd say no if you knew she was gonna use your money to go see her parents and she didn't wanna risk it. Yours seems like a truly healthy relationship, keep it that way, talk to her and be as straightforward as possible about the fact that if she starts lying now about small things tomorrow she's gonna lie about more serious issues.
2007-01-04 19:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible she lied for good reasons, like because you would be upset because you had to pay for the tickets, but if not, then its possible she had made some type of plans and wasn't sure, until the last minute, whether she would go through with them or not. i would call her parents and be sure that's where she's going to, and then when she got home, after we had talked and stuff, I would ask her simply why she lied
2007-01-04 19:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you know she bought the tickets and ask her why she lied. There is no way to get past it until she admits to being in the wrong. I just hope she isn't cheating. But it sure looks bad.
2007-01-04 19:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely cheating on you. Go confront her now. I would have someone you can trust go check to see if she even is where she said she was going. Change the lock on your house and trow all her s...tuff out the window.
Women like that are users of good hard working men like you.
2007-01-04 19:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's cheating on you. Confront her as soon as she gets back, and have an appointment already scheduled with a marriage counsellor.
2007-01-04 19:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lies are never good in a relationship. let her know you noe she lied and let her know it's intolerable and don't do it again.
if it's just the money issue, I wouldn't worry too much if you have money to spare. she's still ur wife.
2007-01-04 19:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by soccerjock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER ABOUT IT, DONT BE AFRAID, U NEED TO KNOW. BUT I WOULDNT COME OFF AS UR ACCUSING HER OF SOMETHING.
JUST ASK HER ABOUT THE TICKETS AND WHY SHE LIED...THEN WHEN U HERE WHAT SHE SAYS, U MAKE UR OWN DECISION ABOUT WHAT U WANT TO DO.
2007-01-04 19:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm thats a very tight situation u got there if i were u i'd ask her about it but it seems to me that somethin is goin on.....
2007-01-04 19:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by CoReAnMaMa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did u confront her?sometimes miscomunication could be the issue
2007-01-04 19:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋