I think people are verbally abusive to me...or I'm overly sensitive or both...my theory is that they think I'm "all That" but I see things differently....all I want is to keep my childhood enthusiasm and have confidence. I love to have people around me and be in their company and I do care about them.
I take there criticism to Heart and I want to Stop this...but I don't know how.....Do I need to be tougher? Do I need to act a certain way?
2007-01-04 11:27:41 · 8 answers · asked by ~~~Tara~~~ 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes toughen up
Once you have a strong sense of who you are, things like that dont effect you so much..
2007-01-04 11:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by luckychucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. If you let it get to you, you'll become like they are. The shame is passed on from person to person. You are bothered by their criticisms and just want it to stop, yet what can you do without becoming a part of the problem? A peaceful Buddhist would simply give back what they are offering (if they offer criticism, respond with criticism). If they care about you, you can simply say, "I feel hurt when you criticize." If they don't care about you, then giving it back can show them how it feels. Doing nothing: the hurts are piling up and will some day sink your ship. There are books about dealing with critical people without sinking to their level. I tend to avoid critical people but then I end up alone most of the time so that's not the solution. I could stand to read more of one of those books...
2007-01-04 19:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by OTTO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A book that really helped me with being highly sensitive is "The highly sensitive person" by Elaine n. Aron. The book is a good exercise in self discovery and acceptance if you are a sensitive person. She has a website at www.hsperson.com. Good luck.
2007-01-04 20:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by jim t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out this book: Asserting Yourself, A Practical Guide For Positive Change. It discusses people who are "downers" (put you down) in your life and how to deal with them in a positive, esteem building manner. Good luck!
2007-01-04 19:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take inventory on how you present yourself. If someone criticizes you, tell them you don't need to hear that and walk away. You don't have to stand there and take verbal abuse.
2007-01-04 19:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't always take criticism seriously, that's what i do and people normally joke about it (unless it's actuall criticism then try to turn it into advise)
2007-01-04 19:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by asianator14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"To thine own self be true."
Shakespeare
(If you have to change yourself for others to accept you, then they are not worth it.)
2007-01-04 19:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your doing calluses will form
2007-01-04 19:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by mywaysbest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋