I dont knoe what to do! i get a call this morning finding out my best best friend died! Her parents do know how big this morning she was found in her bed under the blanket dead..
last night i talked To her and she was sad/Mad/Crying/Pissed bc i told her that i only like her as a friend!! bc she told me she loved me soo i told her lastnight that i only like her as a friend and she took it hard she was like "well the only reason i got this close to you is to be with you" and i told her im sorry but Im Only gonna be ur friend okay.. and she hung up on me and would answer next morning i find out shes dead!!!!!!!!!!!!
So Now I Feel Its My Fault She Died I Dunno If She Just dide or if she killed her self but she was like a lil sister to me i loved her like family now i feel like i killed her!!!!!!!!! And her parents were soo sad crying when they called it was like i was lying to them as if i murder her and acted like i didnt do anything but i didnt want this to happen i didnt mean it
2007-01-04 11:26:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
R.I.P Monica! Lotz Of Love! Im Very Sorry Girl But I Didnt Mean to put It to You the Wrong Way! Love Ya Monica! Your were such a GREAT friend thanks For everything you help me get out of! Im Really Really Ver Sorrry! I have Cry alot for you and still my tear slowly Drop for you!
2007-01-04 11:28:42 · update #1
It is okay. It is not your fault she did what she did. That was her choice. You do need to tell someone what happened.. a parent, police officer, even her parents, teacher, etc.
She needed help way before this happened. You had no way of knowing what was going to happen. You did not do anything but be honest. If you would have lied then think of the mess that would have happened then.
Good luck. I am sorry for your loss and the familys.
2007-01-04 18:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by tasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you didn’t do anything wrong! Are you feeling guilty because you told her the truth and she couldn’t handle it? Well, it’s not your responsibility to lie to people, but it is your responsibility to be true to yourself. Your friend had some serious emotional issues with depression, exacerbated by being gay and neither of her parents noticed any unusual behavior? I’d say if anybody should feel guilty it’s her parents!
Let’s say you did go over there last night after she called because you wouldn’t tell her the truth, and she led you into a sexual encounter that you were not interest in nor you enjoyed. How would you feel this morning? Disgusted with yourself? Angry? Maybe thinking about ending your friendship because she manipulated you into doing something against your better judgment? Think about it dear and stop beating yourself up.
2007-01-04 20:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by gugenheim84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO I know this is going to sound harsh, but if you had to do it all over again, wouldnt you have done the same thing.
The only solution i could see would be to make yourself a lesbian (or date her if you are a guy) even know you did not like her that way.
If you did this eventually you would be cheating yourself and / or she woudl have found out.
SO there really is NOTHING you could have done to stop her from doing this if she wanted to.
WHat if I told you that I was going to kill myself if you dont send me 1k.
At some point you do have to be true to yourself.
You did the right thing by being honest with her.
If you believe in GOD he is with her now explaining that you loved her
p.s. She forgave you too~
2007-01-04 19:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told the truth, but my truth to you is if after that conversation she harmed herself honey she had deeper problems that you probably did not know of. You must forgive yourself because you were true to her. Sometimes depression looks for help outside of the actual solution and she probably thought that having a relationship with someone she trusted like her best friend was the answer to those problems. Come on try to not blame yourself you have no reasons too. May her soul rest in peace.
2007-01-04 19:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by pat_ram1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that really has to be one of the hardest things a human could go through. Its not your fault... remember that. You had to do it and you didnt know that was going to happen. Try to focus on the good things while she was alive. Remember she is in a better place now and she will be able to look down and know how you really felt. May she rest in peace many prayers
2007-01-04 19:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait and find out how she died before you decide it was your fault. Nothing on you, but I am sure she had a lot of issues and if indeed she took her own life, I am guessing it really does not have all that much to do with you.
2007-01-04 19:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your first answer. You also need to talk to your parents before calling the police. This is NOT your fault....so don't think it is. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you start having thoughts of this, then you need to seek help. Call 1-800-suicide...if you need to. Don't follow her to the grave. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-04 19:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police and tell them your story. Chances are you name is on the phone bill last night. So they will come for you anyway. So just go to the police and tell them your story.
2007-01-04 19:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you should have had that conversation in person and maybe she wouldn't be dead now. but now its too late
2007-01-04 19:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lara M 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋