Don't get me wrong I know my husband love's me soooo much.... But he has been talking to me about us being with other people. We have been together for 6 years. He said he love's me he just want to try some thing new. We have done all the Sex thing that there is to do. But i think that he might just need more. He is also one of those guys who has to have the net and the porn. He does it when I am not home and only then is on here. Is this way crazy and should we do it and see what happens? I know that we have tryed so many things but this one really does scare me....
2007-01-04 11:23:21 · 20 answers · asked by crazyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you trying to contort yourself into something you're not just to keep this man? If you want a man who doesn't need porn or other women, then get rid of the man you have and hold out for one who treats you the way you want to be treated. Don't hide behind hope that if you please him, the man you're married to will change.
What do you want from a marriage? Do you have it now? If not, walk away.
2007-01-04 11:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your everday sex life has become dull and unexciting to him. He needs try newer things (more stimulation) to get the same level of thrill and fulfillment (or lack therof). My guess is that it is no fault of your own, it's probably the porn.
Porn can be addictive. If you consume enough of it, you get to the point where you have to seek harder and harder images to get the same thrill, just as you would with an alcohol or drug addiction. The trouble, is, it never leaves you feeling fulfilled, only wanting more because there is no intimacy involved. It's a vicious cycle.
My guess would be some level of sex addiction or simply consuming too much porn. The other possibility is that he may be too emotionally detached from you to be fulfilled by having sex with you.
Either way, I feel for you because it is not a very good position to be in.
Try communicating with him about intimacy and see where it goes...that's my best suggestion. Be prepared for some hard answers to your questions, though, but most of all, be sensitive.
2007-01-04 11:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i at first thought this about my husband and I came to find out that he doesn't want that you got to be firm and ask him point blank then wait for his response if he says he does and you don't you may need to rethink your marriage and it's foundational building block are they as sturdy as you seem to think?
2015-01-17 13:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing is adding an element of excitement to a relationship that has matured. This is where the husband should cherish his wife. This of course is where I've been at for a number of years. If you agree, sure it may be exciting for awhile until you see sex is basically the same with a new person. Only a few minor differences. But if you are not careful it will sooner or later destroy the union you and your husband share. Please be careful if you go for it. And if not comfortable....don't push yourself.
2007-01-04 11:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by glencosalsa 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with it - DON'T.
An open relationship only has a chance of working if BOTH partners are interested in it.
It will not "save" your marriage.
It will not "make him fall more in love with" you.
All that's likely to happen is that he will find someone else, it will start as a "secondary" relationship, he'll discover that he's "in love" with her, and he'll leave you for her.
Open relationships are hard enough to sustain when both parties are interested in the idea. It's damned near impossible when one side feels "forced" or "coerced" into participating in something they don't really want to do.
2007-01-04 12:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I think your marriage is in serious trouble. I would ask your husband to go into marriage counseling immediately. If he refuses, I would consider telling him that if you are enough for him, he should move out. What you are describing is only going to get worst. Sorry.
2007-01-04 11:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you watch porn together it opens up the door to infidelity. You've helped him to be curious about other women by accepting the pornography. I think you to need to start getting closer to God. Because at this rate your relationship may fail. If he is talking about having sex with others with you. The possibility of him doing it without you is not far off.
2007-01-04 11:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by little lamb 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
An open relationship will end up being a big mess; nothing good will come out of it.
2007-01-04 11:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel when you marry someone you commit yourself. I feel what you have is for only the two of you. You are with them for better or worse,and I believe that should fulfill you both. . What you have together is only for the two of you!
2007-01-04 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by giselle g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not enough for him. Have an open marriage and look for someone new that doesn't want to share you with anyone.
2007-01-04 11:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋