I DONT WANT AS MUCH AS SHE DOES.. I DO IT JUST TO PLEASE HER. PLUS I DONT WANT HER TO THINK IM CHEATING...
IN THE BEGINING... I WANTED IT ALL THE TIME AND SHE DIDNT. NOW ITS THE OTHER WAY AROUND..
SHE'S NOTICED THE CHANGE.. HOW DO YOU THINK SHE FEELS?
2007-01-04 11:20:23 · 20 answers · asked by DOC. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relationships go through phases- sometimes you'll want more, sometimes she'll want more. Unless you really aren't desiring her and think it's more than a phase, don't worry about it. If it concerns her, then there is always marriage counselling the two of you could go to, to ease her mind. Just be sure to make her feel special and that you love her. Just be open and honest about everything- communication is always the key.
2007-01-04 11:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I would wonder what was up with you. You could try explaining to her gently and not while in bed (you're both too vulnerable) that your sex drive is a little lower lately, and you don't want her to think it means anything. If she loves you, she'll be supportive.
Then again, what is going on with you? Stress at work? Health problems? Any new medications? How long has it been going on? Is the relationship ok otherwise? These are good questions to ask yourself. If everything is great, and you're not stressed or on new meds, you may want to see a doctor. Some common health problems men experience can effect their sex drive. It's very normal, and very treatable.
2007-01-04 19:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by P_P_K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she most likely feels like she is not adaquit enough.
Have you told her that you are not in the mood? If you have not then she be acting like she really wants to all the time just because she thinks that is what you want.
However, if you told her did you give her a good reason other than you just dont want to? IF you did not give a good reason she will think it is because of her. ( I know this because I am a woman) Just let her know that she has done nothing wrong and it is not about her, you are just going through some changes and make sure to make her feel sexy and wanted in other ways.
Most women are not about the phys. part of sex its the emotion envolved. So show her outside of the bedroom,
I think you and her will be okay if you take my advice. :)
2007-01-04 19:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by daisyhuff4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes hormones can play a role on her part.
Now with you, you should try seeking help from a doctor. A good exam can help. Sometimes men have less testosterone and it could sometimes relate to a problem going on with you. But majority of men have more testosterone that they need to relieve themselves with the help of their mate!
You two should talk about this change, and hope she will understand you. Plus, there are other ways to make her happy too!
First, try getting help from a doctor to see what is happening to you. (smile)
2007-01-04 19:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks you're not attracted to her. She wants more sex because she knows it's the only real way to get close to you. If you don't feel like having sex but she does then do something romantic, fill your time with kissing, hugging, caressing, massage. Light a couple of candles. Women love that kind of stuff. You don't have to have sex with her to make her ***.
2007-01-04 19:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's experiencing her peek now for some reason. Either way talk to her and explain to her that you love her and you are not cheating, but that your sex drive just isn't what it used to be. Maybe it will speed up again but right now it isn't. If she loves you should understand.
2007-01-04 19:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, just tell her how u feel that would b the best bet. If she takes it the wrong way, then is it worth being with someone that doesn't trust u?
2007-01-04 19:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Chesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be thinking you have another woman in your life, or that you don't love her as much as before.
Maybe she hasn't speeded up, maybe you have slowed down some. Maybe I don't know what I am talking about!!
A marriage counselor could be useful if the problem escalates.
2007-01-04 19:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by garden witch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's either feeling very unsexy as you aren't that into her or really insecure - most likely both. Something's up if you aren't into her as much as you used to be. Maybe a bit of time apart to see how things go... How come you aren't into your girl as much as you used to be? There has to be a reason....
2007-01-04 19:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Diana K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you are getting it else where, so you need to talk to her and let her know what's going on. Try to work out being together on that basis after the talk to see if she understands what you were trying to say about your needs.
2007-01-04 19:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋