When is enough ever going to be enough?
2007-01-04 11:17:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absolutely it is a reason, u ask because your not sure, as all the years u have suffered at his hands has killed your sense of self confidence, and u really feel somehow u deserve it or that u asked for it, u feel u need others to tell u, cause he has squashed your ego, and u think this is all u can get, or that it will get better, but really it only gets worse the longer u stay with this monster. should be enough the first time he hit, or emotionally battered, but u stayed hoping things would change, they will change as soon as u get up the courage to leave him, and put him in your past. u will make it one day, hopefully sooner than later. why tolerate all that hurt, why let him do that to u, as we all have choices, i chose to leave my abuser, i chose freedom, guess i traded it for financial stability but it was worth it.
2007-01-04 11:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mental,emotional,and physical abuse is all the same. Hes making you feel like you have no self worth. Hes making you feel that if you leave him you will never find anyone else. And you know thats not true at all. Why would you want to stay with a man who abuses you in any way? You deserve a man who treats you will all the respect in the world. The reality of this is he knows if you leave him there will be noone else to put up with his ****,and he cant control you anymore. Hes afraid HE will be the one to never find anyone else again. hopefully thats true. Leave him and dont look back,,and dont explain anything,,because if you explain he will say hes sorry and it wont happen again,,,but once an abuser always an abuser. You only have one life and why waste it on a piece of trash like him???
2007-01-04 11:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but are you truly being mentally or emotionally abused, is the real question. I'm not saying you aren't, but no one on here can really answer that without knowing what he is actually doing that is wrong.
Some people feel they are being emotionally or mentally abused when actually they are extremely sensitive, usually do to being mentally or emotionally abused in the past by father or another relationship. Get counseling either way, whether it's the past or now.
2007-01-04 11:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad were in a verbally/emotionally abusive marriage, and by the time I was 12 years old I'd made up my mind that any relationship that makes you more unhappy than it does happy is one you need to get out of. My mom couldn't leave because she had no job skills, and I saw what it was like to not be able to leave an abusive relationship.
I made sure that I had job skills to take care of myself so I would never have to depend on someone else to support me, and decided that I would live my life as the person solely responsible for my happiness.
When my husband and I met and were discussing marriage, I told him that if ever our relationship brought more unhappiness than happiness, I was outta there. He agreed (his parents had a bad marriage too).
That was 30 years ago, and it's been fabulous. But I truly believe that by not depending on a man to support me or make me happy, I opened the door to finding a happy relationship. I knew that if I wanted to, I could walk away anytime, so I never had to stay in a relationship that wasn't good.
If you aren't happy, walk away. And don't make anyone else responsible for your happiness. You are the only one you can depend on for happiness, so that's how you need to live.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 11:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! Mental and/or emotional abuse is enough to leave. Eventually the abuse will turn into physical abuse and think about what it does to your own self esteem. If it continues you may not need him to abuse you because you may begin to abuse yourself.
2007-01-04 11:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by kda904@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is after the first sign of abuse!!! Get out of that unhealthy relationship and live a happy life!!!!
2007-01-04 11:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes! if u let it go 2 far it could b hard 4 u 2 start another relationship down the track. No one should have 2 put up with that S@#t
2007-01-04 11:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Chesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is loosing his power over you and he does not like women who are independant save your respect and see a doctor etc emotional abuse is sometimes worse than physical abuse yes its time to go and get help you can do it all the best,
2007-01-04 11:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is not what you wanted it to be and the other partner is not willing to change, then it's time to move on. In the case of ANY type of abuse, I'd say make it sooner rather than later.
2007-01-04 11:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any abuse is reason enough it only gets worse
2007-01-04 11:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋