I am recently engaged with my partner of 2 years. We've had trust issues since last year, or should I say that I'VE had trust issues. It all started with him lieing to me about going to a party at 2 in the morning and since then I've had problems trusting him. Things hae been rough this past year with moving to a new state and everything that goes along with that. I discovered that he had been viewing porn for about 9 months (starting in Jan.) We've tried to work through the problems and he hasnt done ne thing since ive found out to break my trust, but I havent given him the chance to. I'm having such a hard time trusting him and I can't get over the hurt and betrayal that this porno has brought to our relationship. I've tried so many things. I don't want porno to be apart of relationship, I don't like it and theres no changing my mind. Its degrading and provocative. He agrees with my wishes willingly, and hasnt tempted my trust since thisfall. But I dont know how to get past the hurt?
2007-01-04 11:12:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well im in kinda of the same boat as you except for the porn there has been a couple of other lies
i dont know what to tell you cuz i dont know how either trust is so hard to give and get because you feel like you cant trust the person who lied to you and it feels like they broke your heart im trying to forgive but i cant seem to either so i hope we get over this soon
and guys that are reading this if you know your gf or wife dont like it dont do unless you dont care it breaks our hearts and then we cant trust you and then it strains the relationship so just dont do it and be glad with what you have
good luck
2007-01-04 13:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, just maybe he is not the guy for you.
If he really enjoys porn, you are taking that away from him.
He might end up resenting you for it.
What if he worshipped the devil.
if you told him to stop he would, but if that is what his desire is, then you are just repressing it.
Is that really what you want.
why not just find someone who shares the same fundemental beliefs that you do.
2007-01-04 19:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋