For those men who regularly look at porn?

Question

First of all, let me start off by saying that this question is not meant to judge...i am curious as to the answers though, so humor me and answer as honestly as possible. thanks

If someone offerred you $1 million dollars, to never look at porn again, would that be enough to quit?

How about $100,000 dollars?

If someone offerred you a brand new Corvette, to never look at porn again, would yuo accept?

What if it broke the heart of the person you love? Would that be enough to give it up??

Answer 1

$1 million dollars? - Yep I'd take it, but then I'd end up looking at porn again within the first year, because I'm a guy.

Same with $100,000

Same with a Corvette

My wife enjoys it and doesn't mind my modest collection as long as I keep it safely locked away from my kids. I have a safe and we only watch when we know it is safe.

People in our church group (mainly men) talk about hard it is to give up porn. It's a vice like coffee, cigs, etc... Even if you take away the filthiest stuff from me, I can pick up a bathing suit ad or a bra ad and use my imagination. Hell, I don't even need a picture. Just my mind can produce porn. So.... To wrap it up... I'm a guy and I'm going to enjoy my porn.... One way or another. Now if you'll excuse me I... All this talk of..... ;)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First you would have to define porn.
Secondly you would need to establish consequences after the fact if you do look.
And thirdly you would have to ask the person who's heart is breaking why?

Porn isn't about another person, it's not about your wife, or your girlfriend, it's about you. Women always look at porn and feel as if they are being compared. The reality is that porn is a fantasy, a series of erotic what ifs. As long as your husband/boyfriend/whoever is still interested in sex with you then there is now problem with them looking at porn.

Of course I don't know why you ask the question but if it is a husband of boyfriend and your heart is the one that is breaking maybe you could talk to him and ask him why he watches porn. You could ask what his fantasies are... maybe if they are something you would be willing to do you could explore them together. You could confess some of your fantasies to him, creating a truly mutual sharing experience.

If this is in regards to someone else, like a son, understand that he may simply be curious about sex. Too many young men learn about sex through pronography because their parents won't talk to them in a frank and adult manner about the subjet.

Whatever the case dialog is the only way to resolve the issue, and just as a thought, the assumption here despite your opening statement is that you are judging someone, perhaps if they do not see an problem than the issue is on your end...

Good luck

Answer 4

I can aswer your first three questions with one answer....most guys who weren't already rich would accept the offer, however they would still look at porn anyway. Yes, that's right, they would take the money and they would go back on the agreement and watch anyway.

You see, most people, including women, can't just stop doing something they've been doing a long time, even for money. Especially if they don't WANT to stop.

My advice to you is this: if he's a good man otherwise, allow him this "guilty pleasure". It is normal for men and even some women to watch porn. It is stimulating like hearing music, drinking coffee, or reading a book. It keeps his sex drive up, and makes him happier in some way, and there is nothing wrong with that. If your heart is broken over porn, you are being a little overdramatic. I can understand being angry or frustrated, but HEARTBROKEN? Come on. If you love him and he loves you, accept him for who he is...all his flaws and all. Does he ask you to quit shopping or you'll break his heart? I don't think so!!

Answer 5

Well, I never look at porn, but I have a friend who does.......... Just kidding, quite honestly, I do look at porn, and even for a million dollars, I am sure I would still be tempted to look. But on the other hand, and this is the honest truth, if my wife ever knew that I did, and she told me it bothered her, I WOULD NO LONGER LOOK AT PORN!!!! Also, I want to just add that even though I may take an occasssional peep on tv or the net, I would feel it to be disrespectful if I would go to like a strip joint or activity like that!

Answer 6

i'm purely approximately 40 two. I regarded at porn whilst the internet first got here out, for greater or less six months. i ultimately found out that what i replaced into doing replaced into stupid and a waste of time. So, definite I did 10 years in the past, yet do not even think of roughly it now.

Answer 7

I have loved before in such a way, that I couldnt even look at the TV when there is a naked woman in a movie. When you love someone as much I do, porn makes something which is so special to you,,cheap and I hate it. I will thus take the Vette, and the $1bar with pleasure

Answer 8

Shasta sorry you restricted your question to men only. Usually when a man looks outside of a relationship, there is something wrong at home. Speaking from my life experiences I can tell you most women don`t have to be concerned about the computer at home its the women at work in the coffee shop on the train and on and on. So to the women who agonize there men are looking at other women look at thy self and the truth will set you free

Answer 9

I don't look at it "regularly" as in often when alone. But the two of us watch adult films I would say once a month together as foreplay.

But let me ask you this as a way of answering a question with some questions:

Why are some women intimidated by porn? The women in porn are usually not very good looking. We all know they are acting with the panting and moaning and hollering and sh*t 3 seconds into it. We all know the guys with the 11 inch ***** that spray mansauce like impact lawn sprinklers are not normal, either. We also know we'll never do some of the ridiculous positions they contort themselves into.

So why be threatened by it? We aren't thinking "oh if only you looked like her - zits on your a s s, cartoonishly large fake boobs, and a clit ring every cowboy in town has tied his horse to." What we *are* thinking is - "acting or not, she is involved and enjoying it. man i wish my wife would be a bit more animated in bed."

So why are you threatened by it? Yes some of it degrades women but there's plenty that doesn't. Being an NFL cheerleader is about as degrading as it gets in my mind. Couples porn is much more acceptable.

Also, why are you trying to control every orgasm we'll ever have as men? That sh*t will get you into all kinds of trouble. Leave us alone with our ***** every now and then to take care of business, and stop trying to be a control freak about every single orgasm we have. And no, porn is not cheating. Especially when wifey won't put out for a month or 2 at a time.

Why do you try and control us with guilt trips about looking at other women? We aren't comparing, or wishing we were with them, or criticizing you. (And if guys do criticize women, they better d*mn well be perfect themselves first or shut the h e l l up.)
We look, plain and simple. The more you freak out and try to forbid us like we're 13, the more we'll resent you.

I love the comments from women who say well he has the real thing right here in front of him -- he just has to ask for it -- - yeah well honey we've been begging for the real thing for 27 years and it's been 6 months of no sex so guess what? I am going to watch some porn and crash the yogurt truck, and I can do that all by myself, thank you very much. Sure it's a crappy second choice but it "beats" nothing at all.

Doing so with everyone in the next room is rude. Wait until they're gone or asleep. Have a little dignity - as much as you can watching a DVD with your pants around your ankles, that is.

Why not - next time, join in, watch with him, and play 'let's do what we see' for an hour, instead of acting so g*ddamned grossed out like you are above sexual feelings?

There. A few questions in return for your questions.

Answer 10

Any good woman would make their man so worn out that he would have no desire to look at porn anymore.