When I lose my cool at work, I often find myself yelling at my boss. I care for and teach toddlers (1-2 1/2 years old) and have high stress sometimes when there are other things going on in my life. I don't want to be insubordinate and yell, but that's what it comes to sometimes and it's not anything that my boss did or didn't do... It's mostly in my mind. I set high expectations on myself and get stressed when things don't go the way I'd hoped. Please any suggestions that I can do around toddlers would be nice so that they don't have to see me blow my cool. I'd like suggestions on what I can do while still caring for these children. Also how to not yell at my boss because it's not her fault.
2007-01-04 10:58:46 · 10 answers · asked by little_flower_of_god 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
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2007-01-06 04:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel compelled to answer this question because you think that I can not imagine teaching a toddler. Hello, I am a mother...I am the first teacher, so not only have I TAUGHT toddlers but also INFANTS. Thank you very much.
As to your question. How do you not yell at a toddler. Remember the simple fact that they are still figuring out LIFE, they've only been on this EARTH for 2 or 3 years. How well would you do if you were thrown into an alien culture with the expectations to assimilate to another way of communicating other than what you know, the expectations to OBEY at someone else's command, and told you were unreasonable because you had to urinate more than was allowed by their proxies. You wouldn't see it as them helping or teaching you, you would see it MUCH differently. Why do you feel yelling would help the situation?
I really suggest you go to college and learn more about child psychology and development. If you lack the nessasary skills and techniques (obviously you lack understanding) you either should learn them, or get into a field that better suits you.
2007-01-05 01:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, medication may be a necessary alternative. It is ok sometimes if you are having a hard time managing stress by yourself to turn elsewhere for help.
Another helpful thing is to take a deep breath. Count in your head at least until 5 (sometimes you need 10) and you will feel a calm come over you. Sometimes when I want to yell at my kids or my students I gently bite my bottom lip.
With little ones like you have you can also turn it into a quick game. "Hurry, hurry! Who can put away all of the toys first and sit down on the rug?!?" And then of course small words of encouragement help them to do this in a calm way. When you see 2 kids about to fight over an object call out "I see Timmy and Tommy working together. GOOD JOB you guys!" They will look at each other and more than likely work together to put the item away.
When it comes to your boss really just take a deep breath. Rather than explode about what is bothering you or overreacting to her question give a response such as "I am having a stressful moment. Let me think about that and get back to you in a few minutes." This gives you time to collect your thoughts, assess what she is asking you and most importantly, to get your cool.
2007-01-04 11:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, and you still have your job? Yelling at boss, or co-worker can get you in trouble for abuse, or something. Yelling at a drug-baby 3rd grader, I'd dealt with for 3 yrs., while having the additon of a likely to be diagnosed bi-polared, drug-baby, got me put on probation for a year. Time to get some counseling, there has to be something getting you that riled up. High expectations (aka, perfectionistic expectations towards myself, of sorts--- took me to counseling years back. I said I felt like a time-bomb, irrationally angry.) I was going to aerobics nearly daily and sometimes twice a day, and found myself running around the playground for stress relief. Felt great while having that exercise high, but it didn't last. Tried a few counselors before finding the less comfortable one, that actually worked for me. So, if you try this route, work to find the right person for you. First try a better diet, exercise, proper amount of sleep, and fun things not related to work, if you are deficient in any of these areas. Maybe, even a different age group would improve your life. I wish you well, yelling is my inclination, as I'm an emotional being, but it really is counterproductive. Also, when you're stressed the most, that's the time to stay away from the office and change activities with the kids that tend to wear you out, less. i.e. At high stress times, I tend to read aloud or do art with them, as those things tend to calm me. A calmer me, makes more calmer kids, as well.
2007-01-04 13:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by dogfrenzied 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a teacher in a stressful, disadvantaged school. It has taken a long time for me to learn to remain calm. It is self control. I just wont allow myself to yell anymore. If I feel I am going to blow I will get all the kids on the floor and explain why I am not happy. I use a quiet voice and it calms me (and the kids.) I also dont use a 'naughy chair' instead I use a 'peaceful place' where the children go if they are feeling mad or behaving badly. I go there sometimes too and tell them I need a peaceful minute! It works, but we still have our manic moments!
2007-01-04 13:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the answer you want to hear but I had so much stress and tension with my boss that I actually went and got a prescription for sedatives. I take a half dose when I need it to take some of the "edge" off. Exercise, eating right or having a glass of wine to relax (not at work) just wasn't cutting it for me.
The Seds. relax me keep me out of trouble while I look for a new job and a boss that I want to work for. Good luck!
2007-01-04 11:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by patel2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just transform anger to laughter!
laugh at the absurbity of the situation.
the kids will not pick up on the laughter as anger!
2007-01-04 11:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by happymrzot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see a professional and possibly change careers. Seriously.
2007-01-04 14:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember..."calm is power"
and repeat it as needed
2007-01-04 12:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meditate.........or keep calm.
2007-01-04 14:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by The Kiwi! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋