and no we did not have passion at the beginning of our relationship either. I got married sort of young so didn't really know what love is. I love my husband but just think we are great friends. and no I don't want to fix the passion, it's not possible. The real question is....SHOULD I MOVE ON TO FIND A RELATIONSHIP WITH ROMANTIC LOVE AND PASSION?
2007-01-04 10:48:48 · 16 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, dont leave so many questions open - shows selfishness.
second, observe so many people on this board with marital problems. Your life isnt going to be better with someone else.
why cant you fix the passion? how old are you?
2007-01-05 16:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes what is a marriage without love and passion. There is alot a married couple have to do in order for a marriage to work. From what your saying he loves you and cares about you but he doesnt have the sexual desire for you,or even care to make things better there is nothing left in this marriage. If you want to be in a real marriage it takes two to make it work and you cant just be friends. You need someone who makes you feel alive and wants to enjoy life with you and you obviously dont have that you were young at the time now you are older and understand the meaning go out and get the right man for all the right meaning and be happy good luck!
2007-01-04 19:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has no desire for you, but you still married him and you said that you didn't know what love was at that time, but still married him, what is the real reason you married?
Anything is possible if you two are willing to stop being immature and start bringing the spice back into your marriage! Only if you both are willing to.
To me there is no such thing as "fallen out of love", that's just a cop out to leave the marriage. I really think you should sit down with your husband and tell him how you feel about him. It could be that you both have some past issues as being children that these problems are why they have happened. It could be that you were looking for a father figure so that's why you married him. It could be that he married you because he was looking for a mother figure. It could be many things!
The main question is why he doesn't have a desire for you? You have never said why. It could just be him.
If nothing is there, then why be married? Hope kids were not involved either. If that's the case, then you ought to be working on your marriage for the sake of your kids. Otherwise, they will end up being hurt because their parents couldn't work it out to save their marriage. Not a good example, don't you think?
2007-01-04 19:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to ask yourself a couple of questions before you make a decision like:
1. Can you see yourself living in a passionless marriage until you die?
2. We all know a man has sexual desire so if hes not directing towards you where is it going?
3. Am I really happy in this marriage?
Once you come up with the answers to those questions you should be able to make a decision. Maybe since you got married so young you didn't really no what to expect but now you should be able to identify what makes you happy and what you want out of a marriage and also you really need to talk with your husband. If you and your husband decide to part then atleast you know you have a good friend who know alot about you.
2007-01-04 18:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by BUTTA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of in the same situation. Me and my live in boyfriend have been together off and on for 4 years. We were friends 2 years before that. The passion is really there "sometimes" but then when we are "done" the passion is gone. We are great friends like you two but, I feel like that is what keeps us strong. Ask yourself this.... Can you see spending the rest of your life without him? I hate all this passion mumbo jumbo too but, its reality. A relationship is just like work, its not hard to figure out, weigh your pros and cons and then ask yourself if it's worth it. Sex and kisses aren't what brought you together so why make that the foundation for staying together??????
2007-01-04 19:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by SNL1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concerning your last question, "Do you want to ?? You hold the answer, "Is that what you want to do ??
I have had a problem similar to yours, from day 1. Today I am so in love with my wonderful husband of 54 years of marriage. We did manage to have 5 children. God blessed us. My husband was a U S military man and that adventure of travel, wars & so forth helped keep us going. I didn't have a good enough education to get a decent job and I wanted to take care of my own children. All these things kept us together.Then my husband rediticated his life to Christ and was rebaptised and life is wonderful.He walks the walk with the Lord and we love to attend our Bible Study classes.We have so many friends and enjoy being with each other so much. God is so good.
So my Dear, you are young, you don't mention children and no one knows your situation like you do. So pray about it and ask God for a gut feeling answer. He will give you one. Just be patient.
2007-01-04 19:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would look back at why you both married..Love is more than sex..More than passion..One day we all grow old and just loving each other is all you will have..Sometimes marriages go thru rough times but if you really love each other you will stand strong with each other...Sit down with your husband..Talk to him of how you feel and allow him to tell you how he truly feels..Dont jump the gun on anything..Take your time and hun All things are Possible to those who love the Lord..I been married now 16 yrs and I know what a passionless marriage is..Trust me,,you will find out just loving each other is more precious than anything..Someone you can trust with your very life...Take your time and talk it out..Dont go lookin for a replacement..Stand strong together and the Lord will lead you both..God bless
2007-01-04 18:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married 37 yrs. to the same person, and if love and desire was not there it would have been impossible to last this long. If your young, you must find a solution, I mean you must find out what really turns him on, and allow him to have his pleasure with you being part of it. Other wise you have no future together, sooner or later you will walk apart, and if that is inevitable, than better sooner than later.
2007-01-04 19:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like you already made up your mind. Since you won`t try to correct any problems id say the best thing for both of you is dissolve the relationship
2007-01-05 09:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are married to a friend, you should find someone who is going to love you and appreciate the love that you provide in return
2007-01-04 18:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by superduperchef45 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋