my friend always seems to come up with some fishy storys, an a couple of weeks ago she told me she had got drunk an slept with some lad from a nite club, an thought she was preganet she waited ages be4 she got a test an then told me she done a test an she wasnt, an then last week she told me she had to do another test as there were rumours goin around that she has slept with one of her mates, then today when we were talkin she said she donest think she slept with him but shes got to do a tst again becoz she went out on the weekend an got drunk an slept with someother guy, i dunno wat to belive with her as she keeps sayin diffrent things..what shall i do??
2007-01-04 10:36:26 · 16 answers · asked by miss shy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i donna wanna hurt her or lose her as a friend, i just dont want her to think she has to lie to me, an if its ture then i dont want nothen to happen to her
2007-01-04 10:47:09 · update #1
Honesty is the best policy--always! If you want her to be totally honest with you, you have to be totally hinest with her first. Choose a time when the two of you can talk openly (nobody else around to impress) Tell her that you care about her, and that it is because you are her friend that you want her to listen to your concerns. Tell her that you are not sure the stories she's told you add up, and you are worried that if everything she has told you is true, that she is creating huge risks for herself and you don't want to see her get hurt. If she gets mad or defensive, patiently hear her out, and tell her you wouldn't bring it up if you were not her friend. Remind her that you are there because you care about her. She may not like to hear what you have to say. You may lose her friendship, but if that is the case, you know you did what you could to help her. She may get angry and leave, and after some time alone decide to trust you with the truth. Be patient, be prepared for a wall to go up, if you wait it out she will likely come around and your friendship will be stronger for it, or you will have done all you can, and telling her the truth about your feelings will at least set you free if she doesn't take ity well and doesn't come back. The fact is, you can't really have that good of a friendship where mistrust and doubt linger between you anyway.
2007-01-04 11:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is a really insecure person especially if she's coming out with different tales each time. Some people do things like that for attention. You need a serious chat with her tell. She is going to get a bad name for herself if she keeps sleeping with different lads all the time and thinking she is always pregnant suggest that she needs to take the pill or at least some sort of protection.
2007-01-04 12:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by danielle555626 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend thinks she needs to drink to have a relationship. She must have a low self worth. I would suggest AA or treatment, something to help her realize she is a good person without the alcohol. I would also suggest you give her some form of birth control IF she can't quit drinking. I am starting to see a pattern here...maybe she is looking for a relationship and is going about it all wrong. Is she aware of STD's or is it only pregnancy? My bet is, she is making things up becasue she is lonely and wants a relationship. Just help her through. And encourage her not to drink and seek help.
2007-01-04 10:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to think she,s sexy and can pull any guy an have sex with him ,and romancin about a baby,which really in her own mind she does want.
Friend? well an unhappy one i think.
Ask her in a roundabout way if she wants a baby ever!
Dont get confused ,just be realistic about her situation,and as you know her better than anyone,evaluate from what she says if it is totally possible that these things happen ,by the way she behaves.
2007-01-04 10:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by First CHARLIE 7290 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your friendship with your friend equate with who she is having sex while in her drunken escapades.Unless you are concerned about her health.Be that the case then maybe the both of you should sit down and have a serious one on one conversation about sexually transmitted diseases.Because there are such things other than the possibility of getting pregnant.
2007-01-04 10:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her if she is being truthful, if ure still unsure about her then maybe try making up stories or sumtin f that nature and see how she reacts
2007-01-04 10:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a true friend is someone that u share the same interests and are always honest with each other ,someone who is always there for u and your family and other friends,it's someone that you always spend time with. If she has those qualities you know that she's a friend, if not i guess she's not a true friend.
2007-01-04 13:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by tim mcgraw(luv) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that depends on how much you like being around this "friend". you can either a) drop her like a bad habit or b) ignore the "lies" and just say yeah..uh huh..sure and enjoy the other good times you have with her.
2007-01-04 10:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes obviously attention seeking, has she always been like it or is something bothering her to cause her behaviour? maybe have a talk with her.
2007-01-04 10:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult one...when is a friend really true? Onky time will tell sadly.....you need to take a chance and trust them....very difficult - sorry
2007-01-04 10:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Pepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋