A popular answer to many problems on Answers is "Have more confidence" How does one acquire "confidence?"

Question

SIGGY - There is no sink or swim situation that can 'force' you to rise to your potential, since there is always the possibility of sinking! Freud-me-do!

Thanks for the army suggestion mike s! It's not for me, I can guarantee you that!

Answer 1

Focus on your strengths.

Focus on your past successes.

Focus on your desirable traits.

Visualize yourself being successful.

Have a gameplan for success and understand how little successes can accumulate into big successes.

Look for what you are doing right and think of ways to expand on that.

Answer 2

Good question, you can't just suddenly become confident, I think becoming self-aware, knowledgable makes you gain condfince.
The more love & spiritual you become the more confident. I've also noticed lately the more I walk with God, Truth & avoid sin, the more confident I am. Becos I know I'm doing the right thing.

Also, regarding specific situations, for example a new job, you'd have to for example, go where you'll be working, look around on how people are working, learn about the work place etc & that gives you more control over your work. Similiar thing for other situations.

Answer 3

How does one acquire confidence? First, by accomplishing something or completing a task. Have you ever gotten an "A?" Ever won an award? Do you learn from your mistakes? Much of confidence comes thru experience & learning. Until then, you're naive or just plain dumb. "Cockyness" leads to a cruel education.

Kind of depends what type of situation you're facing. Perhaps you're a strong athlete but shy in social functions. Observe & adapt.

An old but true cliche' is "The Army will make a man of you." Physically, I feared no man after training but I wasn't stupid either. Everyone was in great physical condition but we all knew there were other "tough guys."

Answer 4

Confidence is learned naturally for many people when they are young and constantly being praised for what they do. If parents praise a child's artwork, there is a good chance that he will love to draw when he's older. Praise has a huge impact on confidence.

One of the best ways to gain self confidence is by DOING. If a person is having low confidence over his competence at work, talents, or intelligence, he must go out and do things. With experiences, he will begin to see that he is good at some things. Not everyone is good at everything, but finding the things that each person has strengths in is key for building and finding out who he is. Talk to other people who may casually say in conversation something praiseful ("good idea!" or "you're right"). Read more books or articles. Volunteer. You could even straight out ask your boss how you are doing at work or ask your parents about how they see you (only if your parents are the doting, praising types!).

Enriching yourself by going out and doing things you love or trying new things is wonderful. Meeting new people helps, too.

When it comes to confidence about how you look, you can dress yourself up a bit. Get a haircut, buy new clothes. Anything that you can't change about yourself, don't even give a second thought to!! I can't emphasize that enough.

If you start telling yourself you are a wonderful, attractive, intelligent person, you will begin believing it. And soon, it will begin to show on the outside. It's a cycle. If you feel good, you act like it, and people will treat you like it.

It's a matter of trust with yourself. Don't fret over things you can't change - they will never change and others may not even see them as negative. Do your best to change what you can. Confidence is part of a way of living and seeing the world. Just change your attitude. :)

Answer 5

Having confidence is a work in progress. You do not just "become confident." The thing is, you have to immerse yourself with God's word. Get to a church or listen to Pastor Olsteen on TV, or another pastor that can lead you to becoming content, and finding your personal gift that God can give you, for your personality, and life.

Answer 6

You can acquire confidence in many ways, but essential you have to believe in yourself. Confidence is built up over time and if your plans fail, tell yourself that no one is perfect and don't let it get you down. Try to think positive; and learn from your mistakes, turning something negative into positive.

Answer 7

One small step at a time, like stepping stones each one a little bigger than the last. Its not an instant all or nothing thing and never will be its a gradual process.

Answer 8

trying things that you know you more than likely are going to suck at isnt a good idea. do things that you can actually accomplish. And when you do something well congratulate yourself. Dont let your mental voice tell you im stupid or other negative things. Tell yourself something good like u didnt get it this time but you did better than befor. sorry i dont think i made a lot of sense...made sense to me

Answer 9

You believe in yourself... but it's not that simple and I actually don't really have a true answer to your question, because if I did I'd probably would do that thing right now.

Answer 10

By placing yourself in "sink or swim" situations that force you to rise to your potential? By looking in the mirror and telling yourself how special you are? By practicing and practicing so when you are ready to perform, you will succeed?

Answer 11

you realy must have spent a lot of time looking tough all those questions...
but it's a good obsevation
i don't think u can just buy confidence out of a store....