This woman I know (the wife of my husbands best friend) drinks every day. She drinks white wine, when I have been with her she drinks at least a bottle of wine, then gets very abusive and aggressive with her husband, usually ruins the evening by shouting abuse and then going to bed. the next morning you see her she acts as though nothing has happened. Never an apology, it's as though she has never had a drink and cannot remember what she did. Is this alcoholism or embarrassment. So if she doesn't acknowledge it she doesn't have to apologise. I'm confused.
2007-01-04 10:34:04 · 22 answers · asked by chutney 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The husband buys her the drink because it keeps her sweet! It is clear to me and my husband that she doesn't love him. It's sad to watch, all he does it praise her for things she does. He keeps saying bless her and she works hard. I'm afraid if I open my gob and tell him exactly what I think the friendship between him and my hubby may end. She has some hold over him and I don't know what it is.
2007-01-04 11:06:50 · update #1
i think she is, some one close to me is the same, the most sadest bit is you cant do nothen about it till they can hold there hands up an say i have a drink problum.. have you sat down and talked to your mate? tell him your worried? what ever you do good luck!!!
2007-01-04 10:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by miss shy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is an alcoholic especially if she can't go without alcohol at all. But i don't think her husband is doing her any favours by buying her more drink its making the situation worse. You really do need to have a chat with him. And as for not remembering things she's done the next day maybe thats her way of disguising her guilt hoping it will go away. Have you tried mentioning her behaviour to her? Without meaning to upset or offend you in any way i think she may controll her husband, the signs of him praising her is a sign of his fear. They really do need some kind of help. Good Luck
2007-01-04 20:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman really has a problem, and it's not just with the amount she is drinking.
Loads of people drink a bottle of wine a day and don't have problems. I'm not advocating this level of drinking, but it's not necessarily that much of a problem.
For instance, my stepdad drank about 2 bottles of wine a day every day, was a perfectly decent old fella, and died peacefully aged 79.
But people who turn nasty on drink just need to stop. No other option.
You should try to stay away from her. These people cause real problems for their families and friends.
2007-01-04 18:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably and sounds like she needs to be put into a rehab center and the husband needs to get counseling himself. I do NOT believe the old saying" I don't remember what happened I was drinking" to be true. I think they CAN and DO remember but just want to "sweep it under the rug" and go for another bottle. I am sorry for you,your husband,and anyone else who has been put in the situation with her and her "actions",but hope the husband has the backbone to tell her it is TIME TO GET HELP ........good luck to all of you
2007-01-04 18:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's much more to this than meets the eye
She definitely has a problem that's for sure, but it's not just with the drink...she has issues going on here with her husband & he damn well knows it too...he's a fukking ****.hole either way...one because he is making her appear like a crazy son of a bit.ch by humouring her & 2 because he buys her the bl**dy stuff knowing full well the effect it's going to have.
He's encouraging her to drink knowing the outcome then has the bl**dy audacity to make out he's some knight in shining armour by saying stuff like "she works hard" "bless her"
No wonder the poor cow drinks...she should (if she could keep her senses long enough) get help to give up the drink & get the hell away from him...he's a coward either way....
2007-01-04 20:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most alcoholics will agree that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - the question is do you think you are an alcoholic.
It sounds that this lady might have a problem with drink, but until she sees it and decides to change, there is nothing you can do. The fact that the behaviour seems to be carrying on suggests that she might have a problem, but its only her who will know the answer.
~ day 40 of recovery :)
2007-01-04 18:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the signs of alcoholism is a personality change when you're drinking. It sounds like she probably is one. She may in a blackout state when she's drinking and doesn't remember it. You might try getting together with her husband and any other people who witness her behavior and hold an intervention to try and get her to seek treatment.
2007-01-04 19:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably in a blackout (loss of memory caused by too much alcohol) and can't remember what she did. Sounds like an alcoholic to me, I know it's in my family. But she's the only one who can make a decision to get help. If the husband is finding it difficult to cope then I would recommend he try Al-Anon http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ they are a support group for people affected by someone else's drinking.
2007-01-04 18:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she's got a drinking problem and I think she has some issues with her husband too. You should mention her drinking to her. She might not be a severe alcoholic and you might actually help her from getting any worse.
2007-01-04 18:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is drinking wine every day sounds like she has a problem with alcohol, not necessarily an alcoholic, hopefully a good Friend could help her
2007-01-04 18:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋