So, I'm just about 4 and 1/2 months pregnant and I cannot STAND it when people I know or don't know touch my belly. I'm not really showing that much, but I cringe with the idea of people touching my belly. It's totally fine when my husband does, but that is soooo different. How do you all deal with people who don't ask to touch your belly and go ahead and do it anyway???
2007-01-04 10:02:04 · 38 answers · asked by qteapie210 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell them nicely that it bothers you! People i swear kill me exspecially those women who are like ahh look at her shes pregnant!! and im like duh but they still come up to you and think they have a right to touch the belly b/c they are older women and have been right where you are.....who cares you know?So i would just be polite and say look it bothers me if you touch my belly.Dont feel bad its your body you have every right to protect it
2007-01-04 10:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by brfoxracer25 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it always made me feel weird when a stranger touched my belly. It's like they're not just touching me but my baby too!
I like the idea that the other girl said about holding your purse in front of your belly to sort of hide it. However, that won't work for long. You might just have to back away from them when they reach out. That will give them a clear signal that you don't like your space invaded. There is nothing wrong with that!!!
It is RUDE of people even ones you know to touch your belly without invitaion!!
Hey, maybe you should make a maternity shirt that says it's a baby not a good luck charm no rubbing please!!!
lol!!! Good luck, you've got a ways to go.
Hey, is it okay if I send you a cyber belly rub though?????
~~~~~~belly rub~~~~~~ Sorry, I just had to. : )
Take care!!
2007-01-04 10:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you! I can not stand it! A women I work with actually rubbed my belly when I was only 6 weeks pregnant! There was nothing there! Come on now. No one in the general public rubbed my belly if they did I would say don't touch me! Just wait till after the baby is out and you are out shopping and some stranger touches your baby with their poopy hands, oh that mad me so mad. And you don't want to be rude but you have to lay down the law. This is your child and you need to control their surroundings. And if that means you have to be stern than so be it.
2007-01-04 12:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my daughter, usually if it was an elderly person I didn't make too much of a fuss. After a while I was really aggravated with the freedom people felt with my preggo belly...so whenever they would touch my belly I began reaching out and touching theirs as well. I got some really strange looks but they would get the point.: ) Considering I am expecting again once i start showing I fully intend to use the same method this time.
GOOD LUCK!! Congrats on the baby :)
2007-01-04 10:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't been pregnant yet, but I can totally hear what you're saying. It's insanely rude for someone to touch you without an invitation. I've only touched pregnant bellies when a friend says, "feel his foot...no really, go ahead!" Besides it being rude, I don't even let my husband touch my stomach, so I'd go totally nuts. So my plan, and my advice to you, is to say, "I'm really touched that you're excited about my pregnancy, but I'd rather you don't touch me." If that doesn't work, my friend Brandy designed a shirt she sells on Cafepress. It says "touch my belly, lose a hand."
2007-01-04 10:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same phobia. I really don't know what to tell you. I usually keep my distance from people like that and when they start to touch my belly I kind of step back and be like "go ahead now." Trust me I'm 8 months now and people love to touch my belly, I let them know off gate that I can't stand that and pretty much back off.
2007-01-04 10:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
put your hand on their face and ask them how they feel when you do that no im just joking i would just politely ask them not to do it! trust me youre going to go through alot more than touching bless your heart people will ask how far along you are tell you youre huge or that youre about to pop and you'll get these old women who walk up and ask you if youre married i used to tell them no i was artificially inseminated i won't go into detail with what else i said but you get the pic there wil be plenty of times where you re really gonna feel like punching someone in the nose! do what is comfortable to you sometimes you have to get rude because people don't understand things any other way good luck sweetie! it will be over soon and you will learn what not to say to a pregnant girl for future reference things you find rude now you probably wouldn't have found rude before you got pregnant! alot of its hormones, swolleness and the wonderful pregnancy self esteem help im gaining weight and can't stop!!! hehehe
2007-01-04 10:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I've been thinking about this myself and I was wondering if there are any maternity shirts out there that say "Don't touch." If not, you should invent it. You'd make a killing.
I think it's horrible to suggest that you have to walk around all the time with your hands over your belly.
But I read on Dear Abby one time, that a person suggested that the mom to be, grab the person's breasts. hahahaha I laughed so hard when I read that. Imagine their faces!
2007-01-04 10:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seeing how I'm a pretty sarcastic person, who tend to not think before I speak I'd tell them off.
For family it would be in a tone of "Dude, I don't go around grabbing you, stay of me".
For a complete stranger I would probably give a rather rude reply. Why in the world would a stranger think that they can go up and grab a unknown persons belly? People are strange!
2007-01-04 10:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them hey back off and do not touch your belly I agree it is so irritating that strange hands are touching your belly and you do not know where their hands have been or you do not know who the person is you can also tell them you need to ask permission before they start touching your belly set your grounds and protect your unborn baby
2007-01-04 10:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Melody-Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 weeks pregnant and I am really showing and people do not touch mine as much as you would think-but when they do I know it is because they are so happy about the baby and so far no stranger has touched it thankfully-that would be a little weird!But many strangers have asked me when I am due and if I know what I am having-a boy!.
Just say please do not touch-it is your body-you have every right!
2007-01-04 10:07:20 · answer #11 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋