2007-01-04 10:00:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's wrong... he has a bond with the child, not the mother...(unless there's more to the story).
he may be the kids father figure and the only father figure (due to absent daddy).
that's something he will need to decide if he wants to continue...esp when mother has new beau...
when kids are involved...esp when you have a bond, it's hard breaking up with them too...
2007-01-04 10:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Khandi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Along with everyone else it the child your bf"s??
The other thing is I am really hoping you just worded your question badly because you are implying you want to stop the child from wanting to come round rather than doing the adult thing and talking to your bf about what is basically your problem. If the child isn't his then how long was he with his mother, how long have they been separated and how long have you been seeing him for??? Relationships with step children can be tricky at the best of times and your bf needs to talk to the child about things if he isn't his and explain that their relationship will change due to the break up with his mother. The other thing is your bf must be a nice bloke if the child still wants to see him and he wants to see the child, I think you need to act like an adult and discuss YOUR issues with your bf.
2007-01-04 18:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not the kids dad then talk to him about it. Make it clear how you feel. Clearly if he didn't still have feelings for her he would let the child come over all the time. Either that or he is going to have to learn to let go of the bond he had with the child because it will only hurt the little one more to keep seeing him. If he really wants to be with you he will respect your wishes.
2007-01-04 18:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you wanna do that...is it his kid? if so then he needs to drop you cuz you knew about the kid when you got with him...DEAL WITH IT and if its not his kid then you need to tell him that its nice of him wanting to be a positive role model and yaddayadda but you would like it if hed come over a little less often
2007-01-04 18:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, are you serious? You are such a b*tch!! How dare you! You knew this man had a child when you hooked up with him! You can not come between this man and his child. You need to accept the fact that your boyfriend made a baby with another women or take yourself out of the relationship. I can't believe how immature and b*tchy you are. You are pathetic! Heaven forbid you have any children...
2007-01-04 18:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't hurt the child, but maybe it is best if his visits can be less often, as when there is a tie to ones past, there is always the chance of rekindling a past relationship. u have no vested interest in this child and it is understandable as to why u would not want him there. but perhaps the bond between them is much deeper than u know, and sometimes when we give ultimatums it's us who is shown the door instead of the person we are trying to get rid of.
2007-01-04 18:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are being really unfair to your bf obiuosly he has grown to care for this child and the child cares for him too so what if he is around he doesnt bother u leave the kid alone so what if he is ur bf's ex-gf's child he's just a kid be the bigger person and grownup!
2007-01-04 18:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by bianca 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm sorry, but that is mean! The child doesn't understand that they are broken up. He just knows that before you came along your boyfriend was his friend. Tell me again why the child has to lose his friend just because your boyfriend got a new girlfriend?
2007-01-04 18:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by jenchell1994 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U bi7ch! you dont belong with the lil kid dad. your better off on the street hoeing. AH!
Ok, Sorry. Is the kid your BF or Not?
if yes, than im not sorry about what i said.!
2007-01-04 18:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's his child, you need to get over it.
If it's not his child, tell your boyfriend it makes you uncomfortable, and ask him to gradually break off the relationship. You can't expect him to do it all at once--it's just a little kid.
2007-01-04 18:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Iris 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋