Over Christmas break my boyfriend cheated on me with another girl that i do not know and have never herd of. He waited a week to tell me what he had did and told me that the girl just randomly called him and asked him to come over and hang with her and her sister. when he got over there it was just her, and she seduced him, however he did not have sex with her. This is still considered cheating and i just want some advice as so how i could handle this situation. I have to find a way to regain his trust back, and would really like some advice. I still want to be with him and i want to work things out.
2007-01-04 09:54:07 · 16 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when he was over there the girl seduced him and came out almost naked and he touched her breasts, and he told me all the details to what happened...and yes touching her in anyway is cheating, i know that. but i really like this guy and out relationship WAS perfect. i just want to forgive him, but im just not sure how.
2007-01-04 10:06:22 · update #1
i understand you still want to be with him. i was in the same boat. its going to be very hard for you to gain his trust back and your relationship will be a little rocky for awhile but if he did tell you, most guys would keep it from you and you would have found out some other way so that's a plus. maybe he will change and not cheat on you again. you never know. and the sain once a cheater always a cheater is bullshit.
2007-01-04 10:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got this all wrong; he should be working his butt off to get into your good graces. Who in the hell is he anyways? So the chick calls him and he didn't have the brains to say no? Then he waits a week to tell you, some nice guy you got there. She seduced him and they didn't have sex - that's a new one. Each and every time I've been seduced it always involved sex.
Listen I am truly on your side, I am being cruel I know that, I want you to see the picture as it really is.
Listen you do not want to be with him; he does not deserve you, you can find somebody so much better than that. Picture yourself as being a rare and beautiful painting that is worth millions of dollars....because that is how you deserve to feel about yourself - don't you know that you are a very unique person who will travel this life having more experiences, maybe not the same, yet similar, it's a part of life.
Honestly, I wished I truly felt different, I don't, I told you I would be lying. I wasn't harsh I would've only painted a pretty picture for you, which honestly was the first thing I thought of, yet, again, I told myself "you can't do that; this person has to see that there are thorns among the roses."
2007-01-04 10:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know they didn't have sex? You said she seduced him, well not to many men are raped by women. I'm not trying to be mean but I think you should look at what happened again. Maybe he told only partial truths. I believe the old saying that once a cheater always a cheater. I'm sure there are some exceptions but the majority don't really change. Now if you really want to work this out no matter what happened then I would recommend baby steps. Tell him to do something and if he does it then give him credit for it. Keep doing it until you feel you can trust him again. I believe that you will always be wondering in the back of your mind if he is doing something when he isn't with you. Good luck to you and I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-04 10:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he didn't have sex with her? If he went there to hang out as planned and things weren't not as they seemed when he arrived then he put himself in a predicament that made him vulnerable. He made the choice not to go any further than it did and he told you about it when he didn't have too. I think you should take into consideration it weighed on his conscious to tell you the truth. Like you said, that's cheating but, I feel things will work out with the two of you if you can be honest with each other which he did do.
2007-01-04 10:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I am sorry for what you are going through. Second, he should have known better than go and "hang out" with another girl. If I were you, you could try and trust him again since you still want to be with him, but you just really have to be careful. He made a mistake, and he did tell you. Just remember, if he does it again, you can't be surprised. Talk it out with him and you will know then if it can work out. Good Luck.
2007-01-04 09:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st, I would suggest getting a clue. If your boyfriend cheated on you, he needs to regain your trust, not the other way around.
2nd, if he didn't have sex with her, how did he cheat on you? And how did she seduce him without having sex with him? Seduction generally leads to sex. If she kissed him and he pulled away wanting no part of it, you should be happy. You may need to get the story straight before making a mole-hill into a mountain.
2007-01-04 10:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to forgive but not as easy to forget...if he will do it once, he will do it twice and the thought will always linger in the back of your mind. No matter how you try, you will not ever be able to completely trust him again. Sorry to say this but you need to cut your losses and find a guy who will treat you right! Good luck
2007-01-04 18:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by dawnajoe74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 stay true 2 yourself. Do u think that your boyfriend is telling the truth. If so, try 2 work things out but make him work 4 it. If not then don't even waste your time.
2007-01-04 09:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by byou2fulone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm the truth? According to him. Now thats a reliable story. I think maybe you need to talk to the girl if you want the real truth.
Time for you to minimize the damage and move on...
2007-01-04 10:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm...they didn't have sex?? She just seduced him? Sounds lame to me and if I were you I would really give a lot of thought to being with this guy. After all, if he's that "suducable", do you really think he won't cheat again?
2007-01-04 10:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by kelstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋