Do men that are willing to cheat on their wives make good prospects for a future with "the other woman"? Is any thought given to the wife and children that are being hurt?
2007-01-04 09:51:26 · 23 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some women are just desperate for love and companionship and will look for it and get it by any means necessary...and yes even if that means being the other woman and being half of the reason another woman's marriage/relationship is destroyed (because the man is just as much to blame)....they figure its better to have some one some of the time than no one none of the time...sad but true...but what they fail to realize is that the same thing they did to another woman will happen to them also...karma is a mutha...
2007-01-04 09:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman who will knowingly be the "other woman" is a low down, dirty, scandalous woman, and the only reason I can think that a woman would do that is from a total lack of self respect, and lack of respect for others. I think these women do this because that is the only way they have found to build their self-esteem, by sneaking around and trying to "take" what other women "have", because they are not woman enough to land a man of their own. The men are low down and dirty too. If they don't want to be with the woman they married, then they should have never married in the first place.
2007-01-04 10:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by April 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO! It's all about what they want (the other female). The men tend to leave behind age, lust and the fact that the other women will do ANYTHING the wives won't. Having dealt with it recently things would never be the same even if the husband lies and claims every things over. Some guys want to keep both houses accessible with the wife & gf's understanding.
2007-01-04 10:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been asking myself this very same question the last few months because my best friend is the "other woman" in an affair. To my satisfaction it has ended because her fling said that he felt too guilty..However, the only reason that my friend did get involved is because the man did the typically man thing and lied. He said that the relationship with his wife was over and he really loved my friend blah, blah, blah. Well he kept up this lie till he got what he wanted and then he left her. He was a creep for hurting his family and my friend. My friend the "other women" is just stupid!
2007-01-04 13:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay years ago in my wild years I was the other woman. I will tell you how it was for me.
Short answer:
Why: Sex.
Future: I knew there wasn't one w/ the man and I was glad of it.
Wife/Children: Distant concepts that didn't really exist. So, No.
Long answer:
I was not ready for a long term relationship when I was young (18-20) and a married man was the answer. It was exciting, new, and they knew what they were doing in the sack. We didn't want to talk and share feelings, we just wanted sex.
I didn't even begin to delude myself that he would leave his wife for me, and I never even hinted that that would be ANYTHING I would ever ask for. In fact one man offered, and I asked if he was serious. He said he was and so I dumped him.
Concerning the wives. All the married men I was with were far away from their wives. Out of sight, out of mind. (sound familiar) I would like to say that of all the married men I was with before we went passed to point of no forgiveness I reminded them that they were married. (that way they could not say it just happened) Only ONE man ever backed down. (I still talk fondly of him, he was a good man.) This small action of mine did NOT make it right, but I felt at the time it was important for some reason.
Conclusion:
So that is how it was for me. That was when I was young, years before finding God, and truly growing up. So you can hate my past, but it isn't who I am now. People change, people grow. Even the lowly home wrecker can become a better person.
2007-01-04 10:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
adult adult males that cheat on their better halves i'd say frequently come from unhappy marriages, a minimum of the guy is gloomy. whilst a guy cheats on his spouse there's no attention at pondering the spouse and babies. they are completely out of his suggestions on the time and the guy's suggestions-set is 'what she does not understand approximately desire injury her". regrettably or now and returned fortuitously the guy is seize out. the marriage is in huge problem if between the companion cheat on the different and not because of the dishonest. As for being the different women human beings, which will count number on despite if she is married or no longer and what she hopes to get out of the courting. some women all people is very pleased to have an casual sexual courting with a married guy because of the fact there's no dedication in contact. incredibly if the guy is lonely and desires somebody to talk to. the girls human beings can experience needed with out the hassles of a courting and if she has been in undesirable courting then this may be a suited concern. the girls human beings will fulfill the guy's desires with out putting any press on him. It purely grow to be a difficulty whilst one's feeling come into play and between the pair needs extra from the different or of direction they get caught.
2016-10-30 00:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never willingly be one (I mean the only way I would be with a married man was if I didn't know he was married). There are too many people to hurt and there's no way any decent person could live with themselves if they do that. Anyway, a woman I work with was married three times. The first two times, her husband left with her best friend. Ouch. Anyway, one of them is still married to "the other woman", but that's not likely to happen.
2007-01-04 09:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that many women having affairs with married men are also married themselves. To both of them, their not planning on leaving their spouses. They each provide something their spouses don't for them, whether it be emotional support or simply sex. But in many cases they don't want to leave their marriage because it has good points. The other person just fills other needs and desires. So for them, it's a two way street.
2007-01-04 10:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there.
For me, it was a very physical connection. It was all about the sex. Before we got together, I told him that I didn't want to hear about how his wife didn't understand him or how he would leave if it weren't for the kids. I wanted it clear that it was all about delicious sex and he would have to deal with his conscious about what he was doing. I wasn't looking for a relationship, just really strong sex. Women can be very much like men in that regard.
I'm married now and this relationship is something I discussed with my husband before we married. If my husband were to cheat, it wouldn't be the "other woman" I'd be mad at, it would be him. The problem is between husband and wife; the "other woman" is just a symptom of a bigger problem.
2007-01-04 10:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
All it takes is opening the door to an affair. It's not that we want to be married to them or see a future with them necessarily, I'm not really sure why some women go through with it.
2007-01-04 09:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋