2007-01-04 09:24:49 · 14 answers · asked by xrdsairmail 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In some cases the answer is yes; in some the answer is no. If you've tried talking and all that then I'd give him the ultimatum to straighten up and fly right or hit the road. It did wonders for me. I left him. He realized what he'd lost. He'd been warned and everyone said it was his fault.... He had no one on his side. We talked about it and I decided to come back to him. It isn't easy and can't be done overnight, but in time if he really loves you and wants you in his life he'll come around.
2007-01-04 09:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to leave him to get him to wake up, then you have big problems. Sometimes threatening to leave makes a person more alert to the problems in a relationship and more willing to work on them but that may not last long. I would suggest that you try counseling first. Then, if he still does not change or the relationship does not improve, you can at least say that you tried. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-04 17:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you leaving him while he sleeps? NO, really you should not try this tactic. I did and no good came out of it, I still feel the desire to leave when things get rough but, I love him and feel like I am up for the challenge of working on my marriage...notice I said working on not working it. I mean that sometimes people tend to think playing the game will help but, truthfully neither one of you are in the marriage as a game, are you? Leave only if you mean it, then be ready to face the fact that he may like you gone.
2007-01-04 17:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought you meant when he was sleeping...like would he sense your absence? But that's way off. What do you mean wake up? Does he ignore you or not show you enough love? Often lovers who take off leave a huge gap and are driven back together by the lonliness. You wouldn't want him if that was the case. Talk to him first and share what you feel is going on. You know, do the "I feel..." statements without blaming.
2007-01-04 17:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That only lasts for so long. He is who he is. Try and get his attention without leaving, like pull away a bit, or make time to do things yourself. I don't know the situation, but unless it is an abusive relationship, I think the only time someone should leave, is if they are not coming back, and when you leave, you risk the chance of someone not wanting you back either.
2007-01-04 17:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy enough to leave, you should leave. Life is not chess, and he is not a pawn - your relationship should be based on love and communication, not hate and manipulation. So if you leave and he follows, you have to decide whether to take him back or not - if he doesn't follow, get going girl, you're back in the game.
2007-01-04 17:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by autonomous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you need to go that far? Just ask him if he wants to keep your marriage and let him know where things are falling apart and need to be worked on to keep you happy. Once you leave, he may find someone else to fulfill your place, it's so easy to do these days.
2007-01-04 17:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe.
Think carefully. Only leave if you are prepared for the fact that this might be the end of your marriage.
Don't do it just for the sake of challenging him. People DO do that.
2007-01-04 17:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a bit drastic, what if he's so hurt he won't tell you he loves you and let's you go? Male ego is fragile. I would suggest marriage counselling first.
2007-01-04 17:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But you should talk to him and get couples counseling before you try any childish tactics.
2007-01-04 17:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋