Do men get same rights in protection as women do?

Question

to everyone out there has there ever been a case where men have been abused in all cases even raped by women and how come it is not recognized as much as women cases. the same goes for those of deadbeat moms who don't get recognized as much as men do

Answer 1

Sure there are cases where a man is abused/assaulted by a woman. But there's a few things that go on before things even get to the courts that make it so you don't really see these cases publicized.

I work in rape crisis, and I've seen how much courage it takes for a man to come forward if he's been raped. They have several myths to battle when trying to get help. One, that men are too strong to get raped. Two, all the rape myths that have been around forever that blame the victim for their attack. And three, people in this day and age still believe that rape equals sex, so that if a man is raped by a man (which is usually the case) that the victim is gay. Being gay still isn't accepted in our society so very few straight men are okay with having that label associated with them.

So after that background I'm sure you can see that there's two reasons you don't see as many abuse/sexual assault cases where the man is the victim.

1. The majority of rapes are still committed by straight men against women. So there's less male victims to begin with.

2. Then out of that group of men that are victims, many of them have internalized the messages in the myths (like believing that they aren't manly if they were raped). So they will not come forward to try to get help. If they don't come forward I can't help them report the crime because I don't know about the crime. And if the crime never gets reported it will never go to court.

In the many years that I've done this work I've talked with hundreds of victims. Out ot those hundreds, three were male. So it's easy to see why it never makes the papers.

It's not right or fair, but it's important to remember that up until the 70's people didn't even really talk about rape or abuse, and it was the women's movement that changed that. The next logical step is to remind men that they can be victims, too. And I've seen people doing that.

Answer 2

Yeah you never hear about 'deadbeat' moms!
I have kids and I have to pay child support for them even when I lost my good paying job at a community college and was on Employment Insurance (which is very, very low). The mother of my kids, had her lawyers draw up a letter stating that I was purposely un or under employed! What BS!
I friend of mine has a son who has 3 kids, he has custody of them and his x-wife does not have to pay any kind of child support to her own flesh and blood. To me that is just double standards and shouldn't be happening. The people who should be fighting to make this situation right are the ones who fought for women to have equal rights in the first place. Now the shoe is on the other foot but nobody seems to be doing anything about it nor does it seem like anybody cares about it.
It's very frustrating!
*hugs*

JAC<

Answer 3

It's not recognized partly because it doesn't happen as often.

But mostly because the feminist movement has, in its noble mission, shifted the prejudice. Now men have ever stricter rules to abide by, and have the additional man-hating feminists -not saying feminists are man haters- making it out that men are these abusive, violent, unemotional beings who defile pure women.

Society is very sexist towards men. It sucks, it's not fair, and I'm sorry on behalf of my fellow women.