I have an ex.bf also my highschool sweetheart that i kept in contact with over the years.I got married to someone else after college and the marriage was rocky we were trying for a baby but i could not seem to get pregnant and he had an affair with my best friend.I was seperated from my husband and he was filing for divorce when i met up with my first love while i was visiting my parents.We hung out a little talking about highschool and after a few drinks to many at the bowling ally you can guess what happened.I gave birth to my son christmas day about a week ago.I never told him i was pregnant because he is married and has a 3 yr old daughter.I only found out that information afterward and feel bad.My dad is know threatening to tell him if i dont.?
2007-01-04 09:09:45 · 14 answers · asked by Marcy r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not want to contribute to making their marriage even more rocky. I have moved in with my parents temporarly so i can have help with the baby and go back to work sooner only issue is he lives in the same area as my parents.Should i just write him a note?or email?
2007-01-04 09:12:18 · update #1
He had no wedding ring on and he had been dating her on and off for a while.
2007-01-04 09:22:53 · update #2
So while you guys were catching up, before you both committed adultery, he neglected to mention that he was married and had a daughter ?
Well, you're both to blame and yes, you should tell him and/or show him the consequences of his actions - which not only affect you, him and your child; but his family too.
You need to talk to him and decide what course of action to take ie financial support, should he tell his wife (who has a right to know as it affects her if he's going to be financially/emotionally/physically supporting your son) and how much of a role he's going to be playing in your and the baby's life.
2007-01-04 16:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I have a question,,how do you sleep with someone you know is married, maybe you can help me out with this one cause I dont understand. Anyway I think you should tell him. Your baby did nothing wrong, and not knowing who her dad is will have a negative impact on her life for sure. If he was prepared to jump into bed with you, then I am sure he is man enough to handle this. Things can only go bad if you dont tell anyone. Him and you baby might through it back in your face much later in life, when you are at an age where that is the last thing you would want.
2007-01-04 09:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I am surprised you did not compose your-
self when you drank so much so that you did the sex
thing without thinking . Now you are with child and he is
married to another. You say you feel bad but the damage
is done. Now you need to concentrate on the child that
you brought into this world as he is priority no matter
who tells who about it as both of you were ir-responsible.
2007-01-04 14:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a child trying to avoid their parent. You are grown with a child of your own, and he deserves to know about the baby even if he don't want to have anything to do with it. So, just like you met up with him to go all the way and get pregnant, call him or get in touch to tell him the truth. Be a woman about the situation, it's too late to think about his circumstances now.
2007-01-04 09:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a crazy thing to say. It's like saying I will try not to cook dinner tonight but I just might anyways I don't know help!
Look this is why people shouldn't get drunk and have sex with people they hardly know. HE ruined his marriage by knocking you up and you played a part in it.
You and he will reap what you sow. The damage is done. Don't do any more.
2007-01-04 09:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really not about you. Your child has a right to know his/her father. Also the right to childsupport and health benefits. You may think you can do it on your own, and maybe financially you can. But your child is not you. And you have to look to provide everything you can for the baby. Time to grow up and face facts.
2007-01-04 09:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a total homewrecker. That is just so shitty to do to someone you once cared about. The selfish sex act produced a child and now you want to call him and tell him and ruin his life, which on the one hand he deserves for cheating on his wife.
You father only wants to tell him because he doesn't want to end up footing the bills.
You made your bed, now lie in it!
2007-01-04 09:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
..when you least expect it...
You need to leave him and his family alone.
You need to find a life partner. Learn from your mistake in partner choices. Chose correctly.
Find a person that would love a child. Might your ex(soon to be ex) want the privilage of raising a child? Have you sat down and talked to him honestly?
2007-01-04 09:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should definetly be told. To deprive him of is father hood is wrong. To be honest with you, you shouln't have slept with him in the 1st place since he was married. You guys ruined the marriage when ya'll did that. (yeah, i'm from Texas, tired of being "proper")
2007-01-04 09:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick along with your husband and stick along with your weapons. you could tell your husband with out going into too plenty element, that "guy" is bothering you and which you the two would desire to be safeguard. you're being harrassed, threatened, and stalked. call the police and have a restraining order positioned out on "guy" earlier this will become any worse. stable success.
2016-10-06 10:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋