Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?

Question

In the last three weeks, I've had more then I could possibly think I could handle happen.
1. My boyfriend is in Iraq, we are very close, his leave was scheduled for January, we flying down to Texas so I could meet his family it got canceled at the last minute.

2. We broke up & then got back together, it was all over a misunderstanding. He thought I was wanting to break up with him I thought he wanted to break up with me...

3. One of his best friends died while they were serving together.

4. I had to rush my puppy to the emergency room because he was sick.

5. I got sick & missed 2 weeks of pay, pretty much between that my dog & the doc & vet bills I've drained all of my savings account.

6. My mom & I had a huge fight

7. Last weekend my mom had a stroke just released from the hospital

8. I'm working 3 jobs just to get by.

9. I got into a car accident yesterday that was my fault & totaled my car, I had just dropped down to liability for cheaper payments.

10. My roommate moved out last weekend w/o notice (she's not on the lease) because she found a cheaper place to live so I'm out her rent, so now I’ll be about 50 short on rent this month plus no transportation working 3 jobs & our bus system around here sucks.

I don't want to be a complainer I want to look at the bright side, but right now I feel entirely unable to cope with everything that is going on.

Travis - I find your behavior in the face of someone else hurt to be appalling. You are nothing but a hot headed braggart who is probably 15 living off your parents & knows nothing about the real world. I might be having a run of bad luck but in a month or two things will even out & I'll be back to my happy cheerful & loving self you on the other hand will still be a lowlife...hmmm...funny feeling better already.

Answer 1

Marie girl...

That is bad. I'm so sorry all that has happened to you. I know its hard, but my advice to you is you have got to prioritize. My husband was in Iraq for sometime and it seems there are times when everything that can go wrong, will go wrong. BUT, you have got to sit down and decide what is most important in your life. Once you can do this, the things that are not of most importance, you must not worry about. I know personally that this is easier said than done..but do try.

Your boyfriend, your mother and your little puppy's health and well being are priorities. Material things are not. Money will work itself out. You will find a way to get another car. I know it doesn't seem that way at the moment, but you have to stop and be thankful that you were not hurt or killed in your accident, your mother is still alive and pray for your boyfriends safety everyday.

And on that subject...don't give your boyfriend a hard time. The military rules their lives right now. It is a dissapointment when they change your plans on you, but please understand you and your boyfriend have no control over that. My husband has been in the military for years (he was in the gulf war too!) and I have learned not to have expectations from the military. They can change your schedule at a moments notice.

Also, he is under tremendous stress and danger right now and I know from my husband's experience there are days when all they want is to hear your voice and some reason of sweetness and sanity to make them know that everything is going to be ok. Its important that you just try to do your best when you speak to him to make him feel loved and supported. Or you can REALLY screw him up.

There are terrible things happening and he may never tell you about them. Not now or not ever. I've never been one of those "stand by your man" kind of women, but in this instance it is important to put your personal feelings aside and be supportive if you really love him. I remember times when my husband could not tell me what was wrong, and I knew there was something wrong. Today he is more willing to talk and the bits of horror that he manages to describe to me are beyond belief. I was the only thing that kept him sane in those times, he tells me now.

Believe me when I tell you that your loving support and kindness is what will get him through alive and well. That is what is most important.

You are in my thoughts...I wish the best for you.

Answer 2

You are a loser. Get used to it. Life is relentless. What does not kill you will make you stronger.

As for myself I am a winner. I won the lottery. Just bought an old house and found some valuable items in the attic. My first book is on the best sellers list and I've had some inquires from flim makers to have it produced into a movie. Then after lunch I took a nap.

So in conclusion, what you have to do is realize you are a loser and should just get used to it and quit whinning.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry. You have had a lot of misfortune happen to you all at one time it seems. Tell your mom that you love her, although you disagree. See if you can find other ways to cut back on your bills. Like get rid of your cable, or disconnect your home phone and only use your cell. Put an add in the paper for another room mate & put them on the lease this time. Again, I'm sorry for your misfortune, and I hope I helped a little bit.

Answer 4

I'm sorry about your situation. You are totally stressed out. You won't be given more than you can handle. Attack these problems, one at a time. Start off with taking a deep breath. Your stress is causing some of these problems. You must do one thing at a time. I wish you the best. You can do it.

Answer 5

Take some time at night or when you get a chance and pray...Ask God to help you through these rugh times and get through...it will all be over with soon..it may seem like forever but use this time too take as a learning experance so you can help others cope later on...

Answer 6

I wish I could do something to help but know that someone out there feels your pain and things will get better soon!

Answer 7

Wow thats SOME bad luck,

What am I supposed to say?
Whats the question?

I am sorry all this is happening to you!