And not the person themselves? I mean, because they are an "escape" for you. I hear of patients falling for their Psychiatrists, and so forth. (just an example)
2007-01-04 08:49:11 · 13 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I not only think its possible... I think that is exactly what happens every time a person falls in love.
We fall in love with our "idea" of who the other person is.... as they do with us. That is why so many relationships end with each person saying, "They were not who I thought they were."
We each also go into a relationship with an "idea" of how we will be as a couple. We think "we are going to be a power couple that plays tennis at the country club, entertains the boss and rides our bikes in the park every weekend" then ends up you lay in bed until noon watching tv with nothing ever getting done.
However, if we didn't have "ideas" about each other, we probably would never fall in love.
2007-01-04 09:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY! Actually when people are in love it is healthy to idealize the other person a little bit. This helps us to minimize their faults and focus on the good stuff. And obviously that keeps us a lot happier with them and allows us to stay in and feel good about our relationship.
And haven't we all idealized someone from afar, someone we don't even know. Maybe someone in authority, maybe someone that represents something different than what we're used to, maybe a little dangerous like the "bad boy". We've all had that crush where we imagine what they are like, and how exciting and wonderful it would be to be with them. Actually I think this might be kind of healthy too, as long as we don't get carried away. The act of fantasizing allows us to better identify what we are looking for in a parter and in a relationship. And you're right, it can be kind of a whistful escape from the mundane.
Of course the hard thing is if you really start to believe the fantasy because at some point you will probably find out some stuff about the person that will burst your bubble, so try not to put them on too high of a pedastal!
2007-01-04 09:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by princess402 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's possible, but in some cases who's to say what the difference between the two is? If you know enough about someone, the idea of them and the person they really are should be the same thing.
I don't consider anyone I fall in love with to be an escape, per se, but simply someone I've come to adore and want to spend time with.... :)
2007-01-04 13:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anashuya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely.
I feel that this is why the divorce rates are so high and so many people are discontent with their relationships.
People fall in love with 'love'. They see it as this magical adventure that they want to embark on themselves. So they build someone up so high in their minds, fall in love with that idea they conjured up...
Can you really blame them when it helps them get through the day?
No.
But people need to realize that people are who they are. You cannot build someone in your mind and disregard everything else...
Also, in the beginning of any type of relationship or in any relationship in general, people have a tendency to disregard anything in a person that doesn't suit them. They take what they want from a person for personal gratification.
In the end... people must face they did not fall in love with someone. They fell in love with an idea, a shadow of the actual person. And this usually kills people. They are so devastated by the loss of what they thought was real and true.
2007-01-04 09:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That would depend on your concept of love.
To fall into fascination, infatuation, or an illusionary condition- absolutely. To fall into what would truly be love... no.
The problem is that most people have a really hard time understanding what love is, and there are lots of things that are perceived as love, but aren't even related to love. Unfortunately, it's a greatly abused term.
2007-01-04 09:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by spiritgide41 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think we all do. We all have expectations of who we choose to fall in love with. Then, the bubble pops, when they show their true colors that don't fit in with what we were looking for.
Example: Girl watches a movie...Brave Heart w/ Mel Gibson. She has a fantasy of meeting a Scotsmen. She falls in love, Then the guy turns out to be a spineless jerk, with Scottish accent from Canada.
2007-01-04 09:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but realistic enough for someone to just actually be in love with that persons being. Its hard to put in words, it's like a dream that you love to vision, when in reality you see no possibility.
2007-01-04 09:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by 511@ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have fallen in love with an idea once or twice.
As for the consquences thereof, well, I'd prefer to tell you over a couple of whiskeys.
2007-01-04 11:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time we fall in love because of what we think a peson is and only had we listened they would and did try to tell us what they really were....
2007-01-04 09:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible to fall in love with the "idea" of someone....typically because their a manifestation of your fantasies....you can make them out to be however you like......
2007-01-04 08:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋