I wanna take it to the next step.He's a gr8 guy.Except when it comes to intimacy.He scared to talk bout it in front of me.Although i do know he wants it.Let's just i cud pick up some explicit hints from his body.And oh yea we have common friends so i checked with them and now im sure he's str8.So wot shud i do wait a while or seduce him?...coz he's 19 and im 18.lol he shud have made the first move by now
2007-01-04 08:45:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
you can try but that may scare him off ... you are better off talking it over with him
2007-01-07 08:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by arfa54321 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I'm a guy. We're not all rampant studs, you know. Seduce him.
Some men are afraid to admit to the strength of their own sexual feelings, other men are scared of them, and a lot of young men are frightened that if they ask for, or suggest sex, that their girl will take umbrage and leave.
It sounds as though you have a very sensitive boyfriend who simply needs encouragement. Some men are frightened to make the first move, believe it or not!
Don't be blatant - like taking off your clothes to see what he does or how he reacts. Instead, try some embracing and strong kissing, and gradually move your hand towards his crotch. Insinuate your fingers beneath the waistband of his trousers and see if anything expands. You will then begin to get some idea of whether he is gay or not!
Many women do not know that a lot of men are very skin-sensitive below the navel and above the genitals themselves. If you can get your fingers gently to the top part of his pubic hair, and you sense or feel a reaction, then perservere.
Take advice from your girl-pals by all means, but remember us guys have a say, too. I'm fifty, very happily married and with a great sex-life, and we still find new things to do (the human body, all over, is extremely sensitive). I reckon you and him are going to have a great time, and I wish you all the best, and lots of fun and loving.
2007-01-04 09:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more likely something will happen if you say nothing. If a situation is left to happen naturally being shy he will not feel afraid of intimidated by it if left to occur naturally. Obviously you can subtly help by making sure you get time alone & situations of privacy, but dont advertise the fact to him you are. Just wait until you are alone and when he feels right he WILL take that step. If you mention it too much the more it will build up in his mind as a big thing or a big step and he will feel too nervous to take it. Hope it works out well!
2007-01-04 21:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is respecting you because he obviously cares about you, you shouldnt push him into anything he doesnt want to do hes not ready yet, how would you feel if a boyfriend pushed you because they want the next step and you dont i think they call it rape, when hes ready he will make the move virgin or not one day he will be ready and thats when you should go for it as best you can, what ever happened to the pre s.t.d days when girls waited until after marriage, i know they are gone forever but still a girl should have a little pride and not be so brazen, your bf is not shy hes respectful though lord knows why he should take what he wants from you and dump you straight away your obviously a loose woman
2007-01-08 05:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have already said you should take control of the situation. that's exactly right, also he may well be a virgin which is nice in this current climate of shag as soon as you can.get a private room & let nature take its course. By the way if thats your avatar your gorgeous so dont worry he will want to eventually
2007-01-05 08:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Because I Said So 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has a lot of respect for you ,you do not say how long you have been going out,if it is a relatively short time then he is probably holding back,believe me that is not a bad thing,
don't push too hard or he might reject you,it does prove one thing he is not going out with for what he can get
good luck and i hope it all works out,i bet it will be worth waiting for....
2007-01-04 08:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by KEVIN 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is probably a virgin then.
when your alone and kissing put your hand on his knee and slowly move up to his crotch.
if he is like "what are you doing?" take your top off if that doesnt work take your bra off and so on... if that doesnt work he isnt straight as i have never met a straight man that can resist that.
sounds like you need to control the situation and you will need privacy.
2007-01-04 08:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say take it slowly he is obviously shy for a reason, are you his first ? Take it slowly and show him what he is missing out on, I am sure he will enjoy it as you will.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 09:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't talk about it set the mood then take his hand & ask him to go to bed he might feel more comfortable under the covers in the dark 1st time good luck
2007-01-04 08:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by miss smidgey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to just do it dont wait for a guy to make the first move just go for it....or u van always get him drunk and then jump his bones!!!! ...lol good luck on getting some gurl
2007-01-04 09:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Shantel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to do it.. then when the time comes.. tell him he doesn't have to do anything.. undress him maybe even a little hand job and in no time you'll have a grand sex machine on you and you'll be screaming STOP STOP
2007-01-04 10:11:23 · answer #11 · answered by happy life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋